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It was the end

My last post was how do you know it's the end as I wondered about putting my husband on hospice.  I did start hospice on Sunday the 4th and he passed on Thursday the 8th.  It was incredibly rapid.  Even the aides at the facility were shocked.  One came in to see him Tuesday morning.  She had been off for three days and when she came in they told her my DH was dying - she couldn't believe it. 

I was able to be with him by myself at the end - which is what I wanted.  It was very peaceful.

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  • amicrazytoo
    amicrazytoo Member Posts: 169
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    So sorry for your loss. I'm glad it was peaceful. May your memories bring you comfort.
  • LadyTexan
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    Dear Amy,

    I am so sorry. May God comfort you and bring you peace.

    God bless you dear.

    -LT

  • M1
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    Thank you for letting us know Amy.  Glad you were together like you wanted.  Grieve and recuperate....
  • loveskitties
    loveskitties Member Posts: 1,087
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    Glad that you were both able to have a peaceful end to this horrible journey.

    May the memories of the best times together bring you some easing of your sorrow.

  • Ed1937
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    Sorry for your loss. But I'm glad it was peaceful. That's the way my brother went too, and something we all hope for. Time to start focusing on your own well being now.
  • Doityourselfer
    Doityourselfer Member Posts: 224
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    I'm sorry for your loss.
  • David J
    David J Member Posts: 479
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    Amy,  

    So sorry for your loss. It sounds like a peaceful and loving passing. We can all hope for the same. 

    Dave

  • mrl
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    Amy,

    God Bless you, so glad you were there. My DH went in 4 days too.

    Prayers coming your way.

    Michele

  • Joe C.
    Joe C. Member Posts: 981
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    My condolences on the loss of you husband, may you find some peace in the days ahead.
  • Lorita
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    Amy, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss.  I know how hard this is for you but I'm glad you were together at the end.  My husband passed away shortly after we began hospice, too.  I'm glad his passing was peaceful for both of you.  Just know that he's well know - he's out of the clutches of this horrible disease - may that bring you some comfort.  Take care of yourself now.
  • Jeff86
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    Heartfelt condolences on your DH’s passing, Amy.  Wishing you comfort and peace in the weeks and months ahead.
  • dayn2nite2
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    I'm so glad you decided to call hospice that very day.  I'm also glad it was a peaceful passing, it's really the best we could possibly hope for out of this terrible disease.

    I'm sorry for your loss.  Please rest and feeling relief in some ways is okay.  Yes, you will miss him but it's okay to be relieved that it's over.
  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,818
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    Amy I am so sorry for your loss
  • Buggsroo
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    Amy,

    I am very sorry for your loss, I hope you find peace.

  • DJnAZ
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    Condolences for your loss. Glad you could be with him as he went quickly and peacefully.
  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,028
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    ((((((Dear Amy)))))))

    I am sorry for your loss please take care of yourself. It was a blessing your DH went is peace. Mine did as well. Hugs Zetta  

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,563
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    I’m sorry for your loss. Please rest and do self care for a while as you try to determine what your life will be now.
  • JoseyWales
    JoseyWales Member Posts: 621
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. It's nice to know that it was peaceful.
  • White Crane
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    I'm so sorry.  Praying for your comfort and peace.  I'm glad you were able to be with him.
  • abc123
    abc123 Member Posts: 1,171
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    Amy, I am sorry for your loss.
  • EdiBug
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    Amy,

    I'm so sorry for your loss and am right there with you. My husband passed 6/19 and I am now in the position of trying to figure out how to deal with life after EOAD. Hugs to you.

    Edi

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