Taking Medical Trip 5hrs away

M1

Wilted, I'm sorry but your plan for one of his kids to "fly down" IF you get admitted sounds really insufficient. What about the intervening time? How long could that potentially take?  You cant babysit him while trying to be admitted and you cant expect the hospital or hotel to.  And he absolutely doesn't sound safe in a hotel by himself.  You're setting yourself up for disaster. Please reconsider.

Stuck in the middle

Murphy's Law says anything that can go wrong will go wrong, at the worst possible moment.  In your shoes, I would act as if I will be admitted to hospital and arrange for my LO to visit his daughter instead of accompanying me.  I advise this for his benefit and yours.

Quilting brings calm

Wilted 

My mother is mild to moderate dementia. I know what that’s like,  I know how other posters describe living with a person with moderate to severe dementia. I read what you wrote your partner did during a bad week, 

Your partner should not have access to a stove  or a lot of other things,  your partner  is no longer capable of giving consent.  Asking someone with severe dementia  for their opinion or consent isn’t being dignified .,,. It’s putting them in control of things that they no  longer have the capacity to choose safely.  

You obviously do not want to be the decision maker. So give up deciding and turn his care over to his children. Who need to be brought up to date on the facts of life.  Exactly when will the flight his daughter chooses be once you are  admitted?  The next day or  the day after?

Wilted

We've arranged it so that, if I have to be admitted, one of his kids will be with him before I go in.

JDancer

I hope all went well on your trip. Can you provide an update?

Wilted

Will do.

Wilted

The trip could not have gone better!

 We started out packing 4 dogs and their paraphernalia into the car, with our luggage, and taking them to a kennel before heading out of town. It was a bit intense, almost like herding cats! He handled it all like he did it every day. 

My biggest concern was his wait in the waiting room during my tests. He is quite the extrovert and makes friends everywhere he goes. Making people smile is second nature to him. The nurse who took me back told me not to worry, that he'd be fine, and the nurse was right.

My test went unexpectedly well. My second test was canceled and I was sent home early. We picked the dogs & their belongings up on the way home. We're both beat, but in good spirits. 

The whole trip went without a hitch.

abc123

Thank you for letting us know! I’m glad everything went well. Good for you.