My Dad crashing?

bozowing

My dad had, what I feel, two significant events in the past week or so.

First is at Wal-Mart greeter's stand yelling I was trying to steal his money and call the police.  I brought him there to pay his electric bill.  Of course, people are staring me down as though I'm some thug trying to hurt this elderly man.

Second event was at his home when the Social Worker (first visit) and sister approach the house and my dad attacked them with a shovel (no on was hurt).  Eventually he calmed down and Social Worker's assessment reads my dad needs a guardian and should no longer be allowed to live alone in his 1961 house.  I give the age, cause the one full bath is still 1961.

Do you think this is signs my dad is quickly crashing?  He is, I thought, middle stages.

Quilting brings calm

He is progressing. Call the doctor,m report these events. A medication change or addition might help.  Definitely should not live alone even if the bathroom was updated.

MN Chickadee

This behavior should be reported to his doctor, as he may need a medication to manage this and not only give him a better quality of life but also be better cared for. No one was hurt this time but what about next time? The mail man, the meter reader, the boy scout selling popcorn could show up at the door. Or he could suddenly not recognize you and lash out. Different types of dementia take different routes. Some do not come with memory loss first but other things like loss of judgement or hallucinations. Does he have a diagnosis?

bozowing

Still working on getting his dementia type.  Not sure why his primary doc (Gereatric) didn't order further assessments other than my dad's office visit/assessment.

Kroberts

Also any big changes like that quickly should be discussed with doctor in case something else like an infection is happening.  Could be he is progressing but also as they progress it is more difficult for them to communicate what is happening in their bodies (i.e. sick, pain, etc..)

Peace to you and your family!

Stuck in the middle

bozowing wrote:

my dad attacked them with a shovel (no on was hurt).  

That could easily be a felony, Armed Criminal Action, worse if he hurts someone.  You need to prepare yourself to bail him out of jail and have him admitted to hospital if his next victim calls the police.  Then you'll need a good attorney to keep him out of prison, and juries don't generally buy mental illness defenses where I live.

In short, this is an emergency.  He needs to go to hospital to be evaluated for physical and mental causes for his behavior - for his protection.

Iris L.

So true!  One of our emeritus members was jailed for two weeks after an incident.  Eventually he was released to a facility.  Take charge of this situation now.  He should not be living alone.  

Iris L.

bozowing

One common denominator is POS brother in law who has repeatedly yelled at my dad even after dementia diagnosis.  He feels he has to protect his wife, my sister.  In fact, today my dad mentioned again he got my dad in the garage and my dad felt no other choice but grab a shovel to protect himself .  When my whipped sister and mom came out and got after my dad as though he has a ability for rational thinking.

My question is should/can I pursue a Restraining Order against this POC brother in law.  Oh, me and my brother had similar near fight incidents with this POS.

jfkoc

Any abrupt change in behavior warrants an immediate check for a "silent" UTI!

Stuck in the middle

That's twice your father has threatened someone with a shovel.  He needs to be evaluated NOW before someone takes it away from him and sticks it where he won't like it.  Do that ASAP, deal with your POS BIL later.