Feeling Major Guilt

bozowing

I'm sure I shouldn't, but feeling major guilt because I contacted Adult Protective Service and they are I'm meeting them at my dad's house today.  After phone conversation yesterday, she did state there isn't going to be a choice that Guardianship will have to be established and dad moved out.

I know my dad is going to raise hell and feel major betrayal and I'm the cause.  But, with my sister so whipped by her PIA husband and my oldest brother who hides behind him having to work I felt a need to get a spark to wake everyone up.

Did I do the right thing?  Can't help like a heal right now.

Quilting brings calm

You did the right thing because your Dad can not be allowed to attack people with shovels etc.  it doesn’t matter who they are or  what reason  he thinks he has. People with dementia interpret situations incorrectly. He could get angry  by something as simple as a question about his day. 

You mention that he will have to move out.  It’s not going to be just moved  out of the home he shares with your mom. It’s going to have to be somewhere with staff that can deal with his temper. Hopefully medications can keep him calmer. 

Breathe through this/ you did the right thing. 

Stuck in the middle

Of course you did the right thing.  Your father's aggression will get someone seriously hurt, and it just might be him.  Or you.

You aren't harming your father, you are protecting him.  He will be angry, so what?  You would take a weapon away from a small child, wouldn't you?  Just be glad you aren't having to get him out of jail.  I have done this; it is stressful and expensive.

dayn2nite2

bozowing wrote:

I'm sure I shouldn't, but feeling major guilt because I contacted Adult Protective Service and they are I'm meeting them at my dad's house today.  After phone conversation yesterday, she did state there isn't going to be a choice that Guardianship will have to be established and dad moved out.

I know my dad is going to raise hell and feel major betrayal and I'm the cause.  But, with my sister so whipped by her PIA husband and my oldest brother who hides behind him having to work I felt a need to get a spark to wake everyone up.

Did I do the right thing?  Can't help like a heal right now.

There's a saying here - you aren't doing something TO him, you are doing something FOR him.

He cannot continue the way he is and you may even be saving his life.  What if a police officer had been out there and he wouldn't drop the shovel?  He would be seriously injured or dead.  

bozowing

Thank you I needed that.