Getting things settled for end of life

Paul&Me

Paul is very much aware of his losses. He has recently said he wants things settled, soon. He wants to get the remaining home improvements finished. We bought our cemetery plots near his parents. He wants anything he received from his parents to be passed down to his children - exceptions being anything I want to keep. He wants his closest friends and family to know, keeps asking, "Does he know?" I tell him yes, they know. He sometimes wants to know how much time he has left, sometimes he doesn't, but when I figured out he thought death was imminent, I told him it would probably not be this month or this year even. He let out a deep breath. He doesn't want it any more specific than that. That's what the answer will always be, probably not this year.

Ed1937

I think you handled that perfectly. It kind of sounds like he was asking you to give him hope. You certainly did that.

Paul&Me

Thanks Ed. Paul seems so much more aware at this stage than others mentioned on this board. Then sometimes he asks things that are far from reality. He got a new medication and his anxiety is lessened.