Bogged down - bad and good

LicketyGlitz

I hope everyone has been able to do a little thriving while dementia caregiver surviving. 

Two things have kept me from checking in with you all the last couple of months. Here's the first one... blindsided by all the suck.

The Estate Sale

https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/the-estate-sale

Wine, Women, and Dementia is getting ready to roll!

https://www.stumpedtowndementia.com/post/dementia-caregiving-is-hard

abc123

I am EXTREMELY PROUD of you & The Stumped Town team who made the journey with you.

M1

Glad to hear from you Lickety...keep us posted!!!

LicketyGlitz

Thank you, abc! I'm proud of all of us every day! Dementia caregiving ain't for the timid.

I will def keep you posted M1, and try and be more involved in the forums. I miss helping out in my own little way, and keeping up on what's going on with everybody.

More documentary details to come!

Beachfan

Stashing my snacks for Oscar night…….. “And the Oscar for documentary, short subject goes to…….Lickety!”  Don’t forget to thank your forum friends.

mommyandme (m&m)

Oh sooo happy to see your sunflower face! Thank you for stopping by!

(Is that a sunflower?)

wyoming daughter

So glad to hear from you!  Love the rv!  Stay with us please.....you have already journeyed a path not all of have completed and need your connection, you have such a relatable view....you make a difference   YAY Lickety!!!

Jane Smith

LG, I’ve been thinking about you a lot since my mom died in June. 

Your candid posts have been a great help to me. Thank you.  That’s, like, the worst understatement EVER but I just cannot express how much it helped. Especially your posts and photos about your mom at the end of her life.  Thank you, thank you, thank you. 

I’ll check out your blog for the latest but wish you all well!!

LicketyGlitz

Thank you for the kudos, everyone!

Beachfan, if I should ever find myself walking up those stairs you bet your butt I'll take a tumble before I hit the top!

Mommy! It was a photo op at a dahlia festival that Mom and I went to a few years back! It was a lot of fun trying to get her to stick her head in the other side so we could get a picture. A awesome memory.

Wyoming, wait 'til you see it all decorated up! I meet with the sign people tomorrow. My mock up to let the know what I was thinking was pretty awful, hopefully they can take my graphics and make it look good!

Oh, Jane, we lost our ladies in the same year. I'm sorry for you and your family. I'm hoping good memories are easing your grief and your Mom is tearing it up on her next adventure already. Maybe she's met my mom by now. Maybe they're comparing notes on which one of their wacky daughters is the wackiest!

It's always good spending time with you guys, I'll never forget my forum people.

Jane Smith

LG, the thought of our moms whooping it up together, wherever they have gone, cheers me immensely. Thank you. 

You might recall my mom had Covid last August (outbreak in her facility) and we thought she was done for. Nope. 

Then in March she fell and horribly fractured her right hip (she was always walking, walking, walking). So she was bed bound and got the dreaded Kennedy terminal ulcer on her sacrum. Just a matter of weeks, right?  Nope. That decubitus ulcer healed up completely and in May she started trying to get out of bed and walk. On her own.  On a fractured hip!

So that was the new baseline and she was still eating and drinking and talking and then one night she died in her sleep, between the 6 am and 7:30 am bed checks.  We could all hope for such a peaceful ending to this journey of suffering and torment and awfulness. 

The results of her brain autopsy will be back soon.  

What I’m trying to say is that all your blog posts have been helpful, but especially the end of life posts and photos. It made me less scared as my mother’s physical appearance changed. Her facility staff was also super helpful but without those photos, I would have been terrified. Okay, I was terrified, but I had a visual frame of reference. And it was MAHOOSIVELY helpful. So basically just thank you so very very very much. 

(And thank you for listening to my verbal diarrhea here on your thread. I haven’t felt able to update my own thread but this feels safe so I appreciate it a lot.)

LicketyGlitz

Sorry, Jane, it took me awhile to get back to the forum, but geeeeeezzzz! You and I had such a similar experience with our mothers. Except Mom never did recover after the fractured hip. I just wanted to tell you thank you for sharing your story with me. I bet our moms were on the next adventure saying to each other... "Really? I broke my hip also! I had the ulcer-thingy too!"