When to seek a care facility
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Hi Geneman,
I am so sorry for your situation.
First, the legal side of things. As a partner, not a spouse, your abilities to make decisions on her care are not assured unless there is a DPOA naming you in that capacity. If not you and her son need to seek out an elder care attorney to determine next steps.
Has she been to a neurologist for diagnosis?
You are on the right track in trying to make your home safe for her and getting in help 2 days a week.
But you and her son need to sit down and discuss the situation of her medical care, diagnosis and potential needs.
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Geneman, There is no harm in starting to look at facilities now so you have a plan when the time comes. You do not have to let your partner know that you a looking at places. I began looking at facilities well over 2 years ago, I made my selection of a preferred facility and put down a refundable deposit over a year ago. DW is still home with me but I have a plan for when the time comes.0
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Geneman, welcome to the forum. Sorry you are dealing with this too.
You have two excellent replies above. Someone needs to have the legal paperwork ready before it is needed. No doubt about that.
Joe pretty much said what I was going to say. It's not too early to check out facilities in the area. If you wait until it's an emergency, you'll be stuck with whatever is available.
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Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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