Vivid dreams advice

Zaellan

My LO has Parkinsons with Dementia and I'm her primary caretaker.   She has just started having vivid dreams.  She used to see a little girl and mom,  last night she graduated to see a couple of men outside her bedroom.   My sister (she just appears ocassionally), says I should tell her that the men aren't there -that she is just dreamingand that she should come and get me and I would be able to dispel whatever is there. Even her neurologist, said this was the correct approach. This has not helped in the least.  She has even said that if it doesn't get better she wants to leave and go somewhere else. Is this the thing to do?  From what I've read here, it isn't.

My question is what should I really tell her?  You all have dealt with this..is there anything I can tell her that would help her?  She is afraid to go to sleep because the men will be there. What should I say when she talks about it?  she swears these are real.   Any help would be appreciated.

Cynbar

Reassure her, tell her you're taking care of it. My DH had delusions for years, they started off fairly mild (people in the house who had come for dinner, for instance) but progressed to where they were sometimes quite upsetting (potential burglars outside, for instance.) I always reassured him that I was on top of things, checking it out, then gave him some believable explanation (the burglars were really electricians fixing our outside outlets, the people in the house had other dinner plans, that sort of thing.) Sometimes I had to pretend to make a call, even to the police --- I had a couple of friends and family I could call and they would know to play along, so it was clear I actually was talking to someone. Some days it took longer than others, but the reassurances usually did calm him down. Eventually, the delusions tapered off (Zyprexa was a big help too.)

mommyandme (m&m)

I’ve not had this problem…yet. 

Maybe lavender essential oils in a diffuser may help calm your LO. 

So sorry for your troubles.