She’s forgotten what her walker is for

RanchersWife

Every solution causes a new problem. No matter what I’ve tried these last few weeks, I haven’t  fixed a single thing. The newest “solution” that will make more problems is the walker she’s used for 3 1/2 years. The walker makes no sense to her unless she has both hands on the handles. It’s dragged around by one handle or ignored altogether. It’s left in other rooms or tripped over. When it’s not being used properly it’s a danger.  

Iris L.

RanchersWife wrote:

Every solution causes a new problem. No matter what I’ve tried these last few weeks, I haven’t  fixed a single thing. 

You cannot "fix" anything.  You can only anticipate and adapt to each challenge as your LO inevitably declines.  If the walker is a danger to her, it needs to go.

Iris

MPSunshine

Hi, Ranchers Wife, I haven't been here for awhile but I responded to your plea because, well, I know you from, before.

She doesn't remember what her walker is for, so she's at the point when someone needs to be there for her to remind her of even that. I remember when my mom thought she could "walk on her own" and indeed she did try, in the hospital, with the unknowing staff by her side, and she fell flat on the ground. I remember my dad, thinking he could "walk on his own" -- it was near his death actually, and he tried to jump out of bed on his own, to his unsteady feet, and thankfully one of us was there to facilitate him putting his hands on his walker and guiding him gently to where he wanted to go.

It's a thing.

We/they think we are like we were decades before. We/they jump up, giddy with the excitement of the new moment, and we/they go forward without caution. It's the time in their/our lives when we realize that we/they need more: of us, of supervision, of monitoring, to successfully get to that next place without breaking something.

Best wishes to you, Rancher's Wife, I know you and your family are trying your hardest and doing your best. Kindest regards to you all!!!!!

RanchersWife

Hi Sunshine, 

Someone is with her at all time. The kids even pitch in and let me get a shower at my house or grab a load of laundry to do at her house. She’s very active and pacing a lot. She’s getting irritated that I don’t let her outside 20 times a day and don’t let her drink my drink. I wasn’t brave enough to take her to church today. I had a feeling she would need to poop today.  It was a good call. 

Speaking of drinks! I think I’ll open that bottle of wine! 

abc123

Hi RW! 

I hope today was a better day for all of you!