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ElCy
ElCy Member Posts: 151
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Wow did I have an interesting experience finding an elder care lawyer. The first one I met with was highly recommended by members of a support group. She absolutely said I must get an Irrevocable trust and wanted $5000 plus $1000 a year. I asked her about an annuity and she said she’d never heard of that.

I met with another lawyer who told me to put the house in my name only and not worry about a trust.

When I mentioned this to the first lawyer she said that was absolutely incorrect and any lawyer who told me that didn’t know what they were doing.

I was so stressed. Reached out to lawyers all over the state. Everyone wanted money just to talk to me. I finally had the courage to tell my husband what was going on. I thought he’d be mad, instead was super supportive.

Today, we drove 40 minutes out of town and met a third lawyer and his team. What a difference! He walked us through all possibilities. Really explained in-depth what could happen and should happen. Agreed we did not need a trust at this time (just a special needs trust if I die before my husband). He explained annuity possibilities, encouraged us to check out assisted living now for the future, explained so much. I encourage everyone to shop around for the right CELA attorney. Lots of people call themselves elder care lawyers but don’t have the in-depth knowledge of what is entailed.

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  • Jo C.
    Jo C. Member Posts: 2,954
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    Sorry you had so much tribulation with this.  I do wonder about not doing a Trust - without that, one has to go into Probate which can take a very, very long time and can be expensive.  A Trust will protect from that  as well as protecting property and other assets . . . . may want to do a little Google reading before asking for another legal opinion.  Many atty's will do a first contact telephone call at no cost; you can check that out.

    Just be careful that you are covered for the future so no matter what happens, you and your family are protected.

    J.

  • Crushed
    Crushed Member Posts: 1,463
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    The need for trusts depends on the type and quantity of assets you have. if your assets are in the form of income streams a trust is sometimes not very useful

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