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Mikela

Apparently, stepmother hacked my little brother's email account using a time he had logged in on her computer to help her with something.  She had an old link and used it to get all our dropbox notes about our father's strange behavior.  The attorney ad litem guy now is refusing to meet with us on Thursday.  She accuses me of fraud and mismanagement and using a 2021 dpoa which they revoked.  A short time after the 2021 dpoa was created, both stepmother and I located the 1999 poa which is realized was in effect by the issuance of a medical note from Dad's doctor.  So from then on, that is what I sent and resent to all Dad's creditors.  She has had access to all our sibling communications.  This is the stepmother who accused us of hacking.  Ugh.  With all this drama, some very nasty stuff from my childhood has started to trickle out.  When I was a kid, I avoided my Dad at times and it felt like I was always walking on eggshells.  Both little brother and myself remember "hiding" when it was only Dad at home.  Be it in the backyard fort, under the bed, or at one of my neighborhood friend's house.  I have large periods of time where I don't remember things.  I think now there are specific things I don't remember.  I think my little brother may have some of the same issues.   I feel like I failed to protect my little brother, 1-2 years my junior.  My dad had a habit of leaving me huge stuffed animals (unicorns, snakes, etc) in my bedroom/bed.  I don't remember the night before or how they got there. I just remember being surprised by them in the morning.  I remember being yelled at before a soccer game when I was 6 or 7.  I was playing goalie and it was the semi-finals. He basically told me he'd beat my a** for every ball I let go by.  I started crying and even remember my coach and friends asking me what was wrong.  I couldn't stand to admit that my Dad had acted that way.  I was depressed and suicidal as a pre-teen until my mid 20's.  I went undiagnosed for awhile and now know I had an autoimmune disease that exacerbated it when I hit puberty.  I moved in with my mother when I was 16.  I had bought a car with several part-time jobs.  One July 4th, Dad basically trashed my teenage room because it wasn't clean enough up to his standards.  I packed my car and moved out that weekend.  I have a hard time celebrating July 4th now.  I basically moved to OK for university to put some distance from Dad with the control issues and his mind games.  Dad went thru several russian wives many with a young child in tow.  OMG. I lost count at 7 different fiancé visas between my high school and college years. I took lots of Psych classes at university.   I had the bad habit of apologizing and saying I'm sorry for stuff that isn't my fault.  I still catch myself sometimes.   My dad and I have always had a pretty tenuous relationship.    What the heck am I supposed to do with these new  developments?  It looks like there will now be criminal charges filed against stepmom and possibly Dad too.   I love my little brother and I love my Dad, who apparently did monster sh-- I don't entirely remember.  Kinda explains one of last things my Dad said to me about this whole f'd up situation in a moment of clarity, he was afraid his momma won't let him into heaven or will give him a Cajun  a**-whooping because of how he has treated his kids and wife.  This adulting thing just got 20 times harder.  WTF now.

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mommyandme (m&m)

Horrible situation for you and yours. I’m so sorry!

I’m feeling a bit ignorant… why won’t the attorney meet with you today?  Because your stepmom hacked your emails? What are the criminal charges for? Because she hacked your emails?  

Really none of our business but I’m curious. Please don’t feel you need to answer my questions. 

Mikela

The attorney ad litem took several things my stepmother and father supplied at face value and didn't look underneath.  He basically said he wasn't comfortable meeting with us because of how highly my Dad was contesting which doesn't make sense to me.  My stepmother and Dad keep repeating a lie that I submitted the 2021 revoked POA to Dad's creditors.  Part of the hack was the written part of these emails to the creditors, but it doesn't show the actual attachment so they assumed I had sent the revoked one from 2021.  I had actually submitted a 1999 POA that became valid when a medical letter was issued to competency to the creditors which I still believe is valid and why we are going to court for guardianship.   My dad was a comptroller and practicing CPA when it was created.  Since then my stepmother and their shyster attorney has gone on to have my Dad in his diminished capacity sign new POAs, wills, disqualification of guardian papers, revocation of poas and will, a gift deed to take his home, and revoke their longstanding prenup.   I say shyster attorney because before these documents were created I contacted the attorney with the 1999 dpoa and the capacity letter which he ignored.  It looks like Stepmother basically laid in wait for my little brother who was visiting Dad to leave his work computer unattended and then distracted him while her daughter copied logins and passwords off his browser history.  The work computer was continuously open because some of the systems required it to run their programs.  Apparently, stealing passwords and logging in as someone else is a crime and since this involves a computer that had government data on it (construction, bids, contracts, infrastructure and the like) a possible a federal one also.

dayn2nite2

It's also okay if you decide to just walk away from all this and leave them to their own devices (meaning you will not clean up the mess), and know that this stepmother will ransack the money.

If for some reason you lose this hearing and she remains in control of him and his finances, please DO walk away from this.  The woman is devious and a scammer herself, so continuing to be involved with both of them will only bring you pain and misery.

mommyandme (m&m)

Mikela,

Thank you for enlightening me.  Except for the haunting pain that could last your lifetime if she gets away with her seemingly devious plans, I also thought maybe you should walk away. 

I’m so sorry!