Swiss Cheese

Josie in Podunk

In a TV show…Quantum Leap…the main character jumped back in time into other people”s bodies to correct an error in history.  He always explained his confusion as having a Swiss Cheese memory.

This must be what it is like for my sweetie…only it is the present that is full of holes and memory traps for him, while his past is clear as a bell.  Most of our true conversations are often about a past I had no part in as they occurred with his first wife.

I don’t find that troublesome any more as it is not meant to cause me hurt…it is just where he is the clearest.  I don’t even correct him when he assumes I was there.  I just play along and let him tell the tales.  It makes him happy and, frankly, anything that makes him happy makes me mostly happy, too.

Do I miss the fact that a good deal of our 17 years together has become full of holes? And, does it often make me sad that our many travel adventures are mostly gone for him? Of course, I do. And, of course, I am.  But, he can’t help that and it is not something he does on purpose.

So, we muggle along and I do my best to meet him where he is living each day.

Stuck in the middle

You have a healthy attitude.  Good for you!

Shevie

I love this. I want to be like you, make the best of the moment and love the time we gave together. Thanks

SSHarkey

This is so true! I’ve described it exactly the same way. Swiss cheese. Every part of the brain is effected. Bits of missing parts falling away. He can do complicated woodworking designs but can’t remember some of the simple things he’s done for years. He’s falling back into his deep skill sets from way back. I’m glad he can still do those things.