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Another wacky day- food games

DH has been sort of playing with his food lately. Picking at it a lot. 

I’m lucky that his appetite is still good, but he’s having weird ideas about textures and appearance I guess. Here’s some of what’s going on:
  • He just sprinkled raisins on his scrambled eggs
  • trying to peel the sausage b4 eating it right now. It’s not working 
  • picking at items he used to love & dumping certain pieces of them (green pepper bits out of the spaghetti, onions or black olives off the pizza, grains or seeds out of the wheat bread, different colored lettuce in salad mix, raisins from cereal)
  • declaring anything slightly browned to be “burned” & wants to scrape it off
  • visiting nurse noticed he now sorts items on his plate & lines things up before eating
  • meals now take a long, long time. He’s hungry every 2-3 hrs (even at 3 a.m.) 
I don’t know what to expect, except the unexpected. It’s kind of like a 2-3 yr old. Which is exactly what the AD stages indicate for 6d which is where he is right now. Did not know I’d become my husband’s mom at this phase of our lives 

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  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    I’m so sorry.  

    I have the exact same situation here. Although she’s also now losing her understanding of utensils. Had to feed her completely yesterday but today she used her fork.  She’ll also load her fork up so much that it would never fit in her mouth.  I used to try to help more with the weird behavior but it keeps her busy and she’s engaged in the organization or whatever it is, so what was I thinking.  

    She spits out anything that she doesn’t understand, even a parsley flake in soup, pimentos in potato salad and the darker edge of sliced ham. I’m now cutting off her bread crust.  She also wants to show me her chewed food, yuck.  Somehow I can wipe her butt and even dig in there more easily than the icky food thing.  

    Such a weird journey we are all on.  

  • Stuck in the middle
    Stuck in the middle Member Posts: 1,167
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    They say you're not a mother until you can change a diaper with one hand and eat chocolate cake with the other.  Replace "mother" with "caretaker" and you have it.

    I guess we just learn to not think about certain things.

  • jjuliajul11
    jjuliajul11 Member Posts: 7
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    This is very strange behavior. Maybe you can see a doctor? In my opinion, this is a great idea because something is clearly wrong with him. My neighbor had problems with food, so he often ate it. To do this, I had to prepare him to eat exactly what he loves and add vitamins from https://www.canadadrugsdirect.com/online-pharmacy to it to make him feel better. After a few weeks he started eating almost everything and that's great because I didn't have enough time to cook his favorite dishes. Good luck!
  • abc123
    abc123 Member Posts: 1,171
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    My grandmother did this. Any food with a texture that did not appeal to her was spit out. Then she would loudly say. that's disgusting.
  • Mufforeo68
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    My mom also has strange eating habits. She wants to pour Diet Coke on everything she eats.

    In her cereal, or over her meatloaf, or chocolate cake. 

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