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End of a Chapter

My DH, passed away Dec. 9, in his sleep, by my side. There was no indication that anything was different that night. I am numb.

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  • RanchersWife
    RanchersWife Member Posts: 172
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    I’m sorry.
  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,824
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    I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear husband
  • Joe C.
    Joe C. Member Posts: 982
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    I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find some peace in the days ahead.
  • Doityourselfer
    Doityourselfer Member Posts: 224
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.  Take good care of yourself.
  • LadyTexan
    LadyTexan Member Posts: 810
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    Dear amicrazytoo.

    I am so sorry to hear this. What a shock. 

    You have been on this road a long time. You have been an amazing caregiver. Your husband has been released from the nightmare. As a woman of faith, I believe he is now in a better place.

    I pray that God be with you, comfort you and bring you peace.

    You are not alone dear friend. I am with you in spirit.

    -LT

  • Davegrant
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    Sorry for your loss.
  • Ed1937
    Ed1937 Member Posts: 5,091
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    Jill, I'm so sorry. What a shock! He is in a better place, and I hope you can focus on the good things in his life as you transition into a new life for you.
  • 60 falcon
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    I'm sorry for your loss.
  • M1
    M1 Member Posts: 6,788
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    Jill I also am so sorry.  I am glad he is no longer suffering and hope that brings you peace.
  • June45
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    Oh my, that was sudden. My condolences for your loss.
  • David J
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    So very sorry.
  • Pam BH
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    Amicrazytoo, I'm so sorry for your unbelievable loss. Please take comfort in knowing what a wonderful caregiver you were for him. Praying for your peace.
  • Sarai
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    I am so deeply sorry for your loss.  This has been a hard journey.  Please take care of yourself.
  • ButterflyWings
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    (((amicrazytoo))) my deepest sympathy on the passing of your dear husband. It sounds like his transition was so peaceful but still a shock of course. I can well imagine your sadness and pain. Wishing you peace and healing in the road ahead. You have been an excellent caregiver and are a valued supporter to so many here.
  • abc123
    abc123 Member Posts: 1,171
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    I am sorry his passing was so unexpected. He was well loved. I'm sorry for your loss. Please let us know how you are doing.
  • Marie58
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, and such a sudden loss. May God grant you peace and strength as you grieve and go into this next chapter. Blessings to you and your family.
  • Joydean
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    Amicrazytoo,  I do believe with all my heart your dear husband is with our Heavenly Father! He is a very happy man! I know you miss him, but please take comfort that he was right by your side when he was called home! Peace and comfort to you and your family.
  • A. Marie
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, ami. But at the same time, I hope you can take comfort from the fact that he passed peacefully, easily, and in his sleep. I'm hoping the same for my DH whenever it's his time.
  • Beachfan
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    I am sorry to learn of your loss.  But how gentle was his passing!  I hope you are able to heal, rest, rejuvenate and find peace in the days ahead.  Praying for you and for all of us.
  • Buggsroo
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I can imagine your grief. I am glad his passing was gentle, now you can care for yourself. I wish you peace.
  • sandwichone123
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    I'm so sorry to hear that--what a rude awakening. I am glad he passed, apparently, comfortably in his sleep securely with his loved one, well cared for until the end.
  • Lorita
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    Even though we know it will happen, it's still almost too much to take when it actually happens.  It was sort of that way when I lost Charles and it is a shock.  Now's the time to take care of yourself, rest when you can.  It will take time, lots of time, to get over your loss.  Remember, we're here when you feel the need to talk with someone.  Please accept my sincere condolences.
  • Gig Harbor
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    I am so sorry. No matter how often you think about the end of life when it happens you are never prepared. He was so very lucky to be able to die at home in a safe, loving environment.
  • caberr
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    I am so sorry.
  • Lills
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    I'm so sorry for your loss!  You and I joined this site less than weeks apart; I'm feeling your loss too!  Please know I'm thinking of you as you begin a new journey.  Take care, my virtual friend!
  • Nowhere
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    Amicrazytoo,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. May peace and comfort surround you. May you now dream of the good memories you shared and let go of the impossibly hard ones. 

  • Pat6177
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    My sincere condolences. So unexpected. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
  • Jeff86
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    Deepest condolences on your DH’s passing.  May you find peace and comfort in the days ahead.
  • Lynne D
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    I am so sorry for the sudden passing of your loved one. I wish you both peace.
  • French
    French Member Posts: 445
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    I am so sorry.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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