44 years ago today

David J

44 years ago today, my wife and I made our vows to each other and became man and wife. It was a sunny and warm day for December in the Hudson Valley, much like it was today. (50s) Although our wedding party was small, many people came to watch the ceremony, since my wife’s family was well known in town. All brides are beautiful, but my bride was resplendent in a simple white gown adorned with lace, and a white fur hat instead of a veil. I didn’t cry, but my heart soared when I saw her walking down the aisle towards me. We were married by a Bishop, even though he didn’t approve of her marrying a Protestant. 

Our reception was small, about 50 people, because thats what my wife wanted. Her mother wanted to invite about 200, but my wife prevailed. The reception was held in the ballroom of what had been a private mansion, but had been opened up for party rentals. That place is now a private residence again, but it was a magnificent place for a wedding reception back then. It was not a drunken, dancing wedding with all those shenanigans, just a classical pianist playing background music. We did the cake feeding and bouquet throwing, but thats about it. 

My wife doesn’t remember that day, so I will remember it for her. We’ll have some cake and sparkling grape juice together later and walk hand in hand around the facility. 

BethL

Beautiful memories! Happy anniversary!

June45

David, beautiful memories indeed and beautifully expressed!  I can picture the happy couple 44 years ago.

White Crane

David, Happy Anniversary!  What a beautiful wedding you had!  I know the memories are bittersweet.  Enjoy the sweet and savor all the good moments you have had these last 44 years.  You are a caring and loving husband and caregiver.

M1

Happy Anniversary David.  I too had a December wedding (the 26th), and my son was born on the 23rd.  Granddaughter on the 19th.  It's a busy season.  Glad you have such nice memories.

Crushed

very very nice
I hope you don't mind if I add my story for today 
I was also a heretic Catholic who married a Protestant  in a protestant church  

Today is the 49th anniversary  of my deciding to ask DW to marry me.
I remember it vividly
I made  a spread sheet on a table of all the pluses and minuses and the knowns and unknowns.  
She had, to put it mildly a "strong character"    My mother (who adored  her) said the girl  had a "whim of iron"  My description was a "titanium backbone". 
She was 20 I was 21
She was smarter, tougher and possibly more ambitious than I was. 
She was a far better student (graduated in 3 years summa *$%& laud in Math, headed to Medical school) I was first year law
We would both be living at our parents homes while in school.
My conclusion was that she wanted a "wife and family" 
Fortunately I could cook and had lots of experience running a house.  I had been a baby sitter but she had never touched a baby or handled a small child. 
But she was simply the finest girl I ever met, or was likely to meet. 

 I was terrified she would find somebody better than I was 
 So I decided to ask her on Christmas but hat is another story 
 I just made her a chocolate cake I will take her some today
 
 
 
 
  

Beachfan

Happy Anniversary, David, even though your memories are one sided.  It’s comforting to reminisce, rehash all the good times and imagine “what might have been”.  I married my DH, a Protestant, on June 8, 1968, at High Mass at noon, hottest day I can ever remember.  It took forever. Afterward, he said, “Well, I guess we’re really married!”

Ed1937

David, Happy Anniversary. Love the story.

Marie58

Happy Anniversary, David!

jfkoc

Happy Anniversary David....lovely memories....thank you for sharing them.

Crushed...you made  a spread sheet? Oh you romantic devil...lol

abc123

Happy anniversary! What a beautiful wedding you had.

loveskitties

Happy anniversary David.

It is wonderful that you have those special memories to hold on to.  May they sustain you as you care for your DW.

While a walk around the facility is not the way you could have foreseen celebrating this day, enjoy the fact that you can at least to that.

Hugs to you both on this special day.

Paris20

David, that’s a beautiful story, a lovely memory. I, too, have turned to many beautiful memories with my husband…our meeting, our marriage, kids, careers, travel, etc. I’m reminded of that saying, «Don’t cry because it’s over. Be glad that it happened.»  As we make peace with what is happening now and into the future, we should turn to those memories. I’m not an advocate of living in the past but I do support finding those thoughts that create happiness in the present.

David J

Paris, I love that sentiment: “«Don’t cry because it’s over. Be glad that it happened.» “

JoseyWales

Happy Anniversary!  Thank you for sharing that beautiful memory.

Jeff86

David, thank you for sharing that beautiful reminiscence.  Very touching.  We all have to do the remembering for our spouses/partners.  And we need to not allow our challenging present and futures to cancel out our pasts.  So go celebrate with your DW for the two of you.  Your DW is a lucky woman.

Joydean

David, happy anniversary to you and your wife. Your wedding sounds beautiful. Thank you for sharing. My husband who’s name is also David, our 53rd anniversary was December 2. He didn’t remember, and that’s okay. I remembered for both of us.

LadyTexan

Happy anniversary to you and your wife. You described that special day with such love, I could picture it in my mind. Hold on to that precious memory. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your wife is a lucky lady to be so deeply loved and so well cared for.

God bless you both.

Mint

Happy Anniversary