Christmas 1972-2021

Crushed

This is my fourth Christmas since DW  had any idea who I am. Forty nine years ago on Christmas I asked the most wonderful girl in the world if she would marry me. She looked horrified and then said yes. It was an amazingly wonderful ride together but a horrible disease has taken her away. I have the most wonderful memories. Sometimes I bore people with them since that is how I keep them alive. But she was the love of my life

Joydean

Love is a very wonderful thing and it does not stop! Peace to you Crushed! Never let go of your memories!

David J

Crushed, I am sorry for how you are feeling right now. Christmas is hard, particularly when there is a poignant memory associated with it. Peace to you this holiday season.

Cherjer

Crushed, you have expressed so often about your wonderful life and how AD has taken this away. I think it is especially hard when this happened at such a young age. I am so happy  you have a supportive family, but does not make the loss any easier.

Comrade

I too am losing DW after 35 years of marriage. It is an unimaginable pain. She grows more frail with appetite changes, her mobility is changing and DWs memories are sketchy.

I am so sorry for all of us and am trying to transition to becoming a compassionate caregiver first, while measuring how much emotion I can expend each day.

Both are not exclusive of each other, but they do have a difficult time co-existing. I look in to her eyes and know her fear, her needs and try to balance each day.

We are both afraid.

White Crane

Cherish those memories, Crushed.  They are precious. Sending hugs.

Brenda 

DanM

Crushed, we are in the beginning stages of this terrible phase of our life. As with you, we have had a long, blessed and wonderful life together. Your posts have been critical to me as I try to plan for our future together. Thank you for taking the time to share your personal story.