spouse very condesending

Kevin M

my spouse is super smart, but does not have one ounce of compassion toward my situation with ALZ . . she gets frustrated that I need to have time to focus on my conversations with out people - she even gets aggravated that I sometimes get confused, she wants immediate action on everything when she wants it - meantime for me about trying to focus and star as astute as possible . . . where does this go from hear?

SusanB-dil

Hi Kevin -   Has she read up on anything about ALZ?  Could it be that she is in a type of denial and doesn't want to face it?  Unfortunately, some people don't take the time to learn about it, or don't want to, or just don't have any patience, even if it is someone they love.

Welcome to 'here' - lots of us here who do care. 

Kevin M

SusanB-dil

We know you are not by any means stupid nor slow just because the brain is taking longer to process than before.   I'm so sorry - she sounds like she just has no patience.

Mint

Kevin I’m so sorry.  Know this has to be so hurtful.  Sure she is stressed too.

mommyandme (m&m)

I’m really sorry…

Has she always been verbally abusive?  Is it possible she also has a cognitive decline? 

I wish you were shown some compassion from your LO! 

Iris L.

Hello Kevin.  It's terrible that your spouse treats you so badly, but this is not unusual.  Many people take advantage of PWDs (persons with dementia).  You have to decide who you trust enough to help you.  Do you have any children or siblings?  You might bring them into your confidence.  It will be hard, because the spouse is the usual caregiver.  Please keep posting. 

 Iris

Kevin M

I will keep posting for sure. I'm working on ways to engage her that is more specific to her needs versus me.  That may be a mistake, but it's worth a shot . . .

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