I cry and laugh

BethMimi

One minute Mom calls me a son of a bitch (I am her daughter btw) when I am trying to get her to do the things she may not want to.  A few minutes later she will say "Thank you my sweet darling".  I have to laugh sometimes.  Or cry.  Depends on the day.

Neverends

I feel your pain and emotions. My mother does the same thing. I just don't  react to her when the awful names come out of her mouth. I was the least favorite child called names all.my life from her. Now I'm the one taking care of her, go figure. .I started calling her by her first name because calling her mom was a trigger for her,she got so mad at me." I'm not your mother ". Ugh.  Anyway I talk third person to her all the time. " I'm the nurse and I'm here to give you your pills", I'll knock on her bedroom door and announce that I'm "housekeeping  and I'm coming to.clean the room,.thank you Ida and have a good day". I do this all day everyday. Do what it takes to.keep the peace along with medication. Sending hugs, your not alone.

Fad marie

I definitely understand the laugh/cry mentality.  Most of the time I try to find humor in the absurdities of Alzheimer's (like my mom's stories about how she worked for Donald Trump decades ago... she did not), but even the lovely moments can be very sad when thinking about how hard my mom is trying to hold onto who she is/was.  

I was the closest to my mom through our adult years and so I spend the most time with her of her children (I have two siblings).  What that also means is that I get the brunt of her anger when she's frustrated with what she can't do or perceptions that others aren't listening to her needs (which is probably the case sometimes because we often can't understand her).  Just the other day, she wanted to express some anger towards me and my dad walked in and she lashed out at him.  Immediately when she looked up and saw him she laughed and said, "Oh, it's you."  It was remarkable how targeted her frustration was and how she knew she wanted to express it towards me and not him... even though the thing she was mad about had little to do with me!  (She is repeatedly upset we want her to drink Ensure and she almost exclusively blames me since I'm the one who encourages her most to drink it.)  

I mostly can brush off her anger and not take it personally, but, yeah, every once in a while I think to myself, "Huh?  Why are you mad at me?  I'm the one who's always helping you!" 

anniew

So good to know I'm not alone in this! My mom is in MC. I only have one sibling, and she hasn't lived around here for over 50 years, so I'm pretty much my mom's "person." Some days my mom calls me a godsend; other days she just blows up at me and hangs up on me. And some days she just calls the first phone number she can find but doesn't really know who I am. Craziest thing, sometimes it's easier on me emotionally when she just doesn't know who I am. I try to find some humor when I can. Yesterday was one of those days; however, it took me until today to see any humor in it. I walked into my mom's apartment to find one of her ostomy pouches stuck to her shin. She had a sore on her leg and evidently thought the ostomy pouch was a Bandaid. That was one heck of an expensive Bandaid!

mommyandme (m&m)

Laughter is so helpful.  Every time my mom burps or I do she laughs. 

anniew, I’m laughing with you on that one, kinda.