Anyone have their mom/dad say things that aren't there?

Lalafr81

*My mom hasn't been diagnosed with dementia/alzheimers.*

I have my mom telling me since 2020, that people were talking to her from tv. Anything on tv. And that one of the news reporter was her daughter (my supposed twin...but the woman is 10 years older than me). Everyday is the same thing. I tried telling her in the beginning and as time went by, it was worse. I accepted a few months back that it is her reality. I can't tell her it's not true anymore. She says someone is saying hi to her, I have to just stay quiet. 

But it's so bad because my mom has prohibited my dad from watching tv. She took the tv from his room. She said that my dad was being disrespectful, that the people were watching him, etc. He is bored, yet she complains that he is just thinking too much and planning on doing something to hurt her or do something malicious. I can't say anything because she will get so angry that I 'm encouraging him to do things and that I'm on his side. I'm extremely mentally exhausted. She has no clue how this is affecting me. I'm married and have twin 6 year old. Everyone has struggled one way or another since the pandemic started. The pandemic made it worse for my mom. She was already saying things that weren't true, like someone came in her place and changed the vent, or painted the wall of the garage or that the neighbor made a hole in the closet to get in her room. I numerous times explained that it was impossible giving her examples. 

My siblings just started realizing the changes our mom is going through. Although, there are times they forget and they escalate the situation. I have told them how we need to talk to her. And not make her look crazy or call her so. I am the one who talks to her everyday. Everyday. Not one day goes by without me talking to her. My siblings rarely talk to her. And it makes me mad. They don't have children. One of them is single. Thank God we live in the same apartment complex. 

I feel like I will loose it. I get agitated when my mom talks to me about something I have no fault in. My heart races and I try to calm her down. I never had a good relationship with my mom, yet I'm the one that has always helped her, even now, married and with children. 

I get so mad that I become so quiet with my husband or I may sound upset with him and it's not fair for him. I'm 40 and some women will understand, if not most, the changes we go through once we hit 40 or before 40. 

Sorry for my rant. ); I have never shared this story to anyone. I love my mom so much. After all that has happened between us, I'm still here for her. 

M1

Welcome Lala. Have you told your mother’s doctor about this? It warrants evaluation for dementia and other potential causes. Auditory hallucinations (as opposed to visual) are a hallmark of psychosis and might or might not even related to dementia.

Neverends

Hello Lalafri81. I'm so so sorry this is happening  to you. I totally understand, my mother did this early on in her dementia.  The TV issue was such a sore spot.with her for many years. .  We fought a lot in the beginning  about it but then I figured  out what was going on with her and just let it go. I listened to her rants about the  TV , watched  her turn the TV because " they could see her "and answered  the people back on the TV. It was unsettling to say the least. I just went with the flow never helps to argue,ever. Lots of people going thru a lot of things on this forum. It's been a great means of support for me. Sending hugs your way hang in there.