Transitioning to a home

Spindle

Hello,  my family has finally gotten to the point where we know we need to put my dad in a home. I know it's going to be difficult so I was wondering if anyone had some tips regarding what to say to him.  I'm not sure what stage he is at in his dementia- he has a hard time communicating, not finding the right words for what he's trying to say.  Anyway, I know it's going to be scary and want to make it as easy as possible. Since he forgets everything, I didn't know if we should say we're just going to see how it goes, but I don't want to lie?  So yeah.. any help or recommendations would be really appreciated!

M1

Hi spindle, there are lots of threads on this topic so you will find many approaches.  You might talk to the staff too, many are used to handling this transition.  Many would say not to tell him ahead of time as it would only upset him.  but you are right, this may depend on his stage--if you look up Tam Cummings' 7 stages of dementia, that may give you an idea of where he is on the spectrum of the disease.  Sorry you are facing this, but you've come to a good place for advice and support.

Tfreedz

Right there with you Spindle! 

 From what I see on these posts it looks like saying it’s only temporary is the way most people go. For my mom, I know the thought of a facility equals death so I’m going with temporary home away from home, that will have great meals and activities until blank,blank,blank and sh3 can return home. The blank for her is extensive home repairs but some say until you are stronger, healthier whatever applies.

Also reassurance that our LO will not be abandoned and we will still be very involved with them no matter where they live should help. Good luck!