Outsiders

RobertsBrown

The Well Wishers are at it again. They want to help me.

I need to ‘work’.  We should ‘get help’.  she will ‘be fine’.

They don’t see that it all means nothing anymore.  Not any of it.

She is right here beside me now.  She is warm and safe and sleeping.  The day has ended, the meals eaten, the messes wiped away.

Today's smiles were the real ones.  The hug was the real one.  She is so beautiful.

I don’t need to ‘work’.  There is no ‘help’.  She will not be ‘fine’.

Lorita

Hi Robert,

 No one understands unless they've been, or are, caregivers.  We can't explain how things are to them because some things are beyond belief.  The best we can do is to take care of our loved one the way we'd want to be taken care of if the tables were turned.  We don't feel that anyone else can give them the care we give.  The end of the day when we're both in bed and resting is the reward we get for the days work.

 Bless you for caring for your wife.  There's no one like a caregiver - it takes a special person just as being a nurse or doctor takes a special type of caring person.

 Rest well.

Joydean

Robert, what Lorita said about only caregivers can understand. Is so true as you know. Even as a caregiver something’s or stages still are difficult until our LO is at that stage. Your feeling, she’s right by my side, she’s warm and safe and asleep and beautiful, that’s all that truly matters. Not what others say or imply. Your love and her love for you that’s what’s important. 

God said forsake others and cling to each other!  You are doing it! Stay strong. 

Bill_2001

Dam Robert. That was so blunt, and so beautiful. My wife is safe and sleeping on my shoulder. Straight-on no-nonsense there. You get it.

Weeping like a willow.

abc123

Robert! You are a good man.

Bill, it's good to see you post! I think of you often.

Ed1937

RobertsBrown wrote:

 She is warm and safe and sleeping.  The day has ended, the meals eaten, the messes wiped away.

Today's smiles were the real ones.  The hug was the real one.  She is so beautiful.

Do not pay any attention to others. It just doesn't get much better than what you said above. Excellent job!

Mint

Understand.  Thanks for sharing.

Jeff86

You’ve reduced this caregiving to its essence.  Beautifully said.

DrinaJGB

Bravo.

Cherjer

I wish I could say those words! I am having a hard time being a good caregiver!