My mother is gone

MN Chickadee

She was boosted but Omicron, or perhaps quarantine, proved to be too much for her. It sent her down a spiral she couldn’t come back from. It seemed incredibly sudden despite the fact that I’ve been preparing for this, sometimes even hoping for this, for a long time. She lived with some level of Alz for at least 10 years, memory loss as far back as 15 years. She had a lot of good times despite it. I thought I had done a lot of the grieving along the way but this is hard. I’m angry Alzheimers exists; I’m angry Covid exists. At the end of the day I know I did everything I could for her. I gave it my all and I think she kind of knew it. She would have been proud. I have to focus on the health of my dad now, her husband of 52 years. A world without my mother feels like a terrible place right now. But the family was able to say what we needed and say goodbye. Perhaps spinning through stage 7 in literally two weeks is a blessing but it’s hard to see anything good right now. 

Peace to all you. I’ll be back eventually. 

toolbeltexpert

Sorry for your loss. Times like this words are not sufficient. Praying for you and yours.

May flowers

I am so sorry for your loss, MN Chickadee.

Jo C.

Mn Chickadee, I send my condolences on the loss of your beloved mother.   I understand what you say; no matter we are expecting the death, it can still be stunning when it happens.  You have been a wonderful loving daughter and advocate for your mother and such a blessing to her. 

Do let us know how you are doing when you feel up to writing; we will be thinking of you.  With warmest of thoughts being sent from one daughter to another,

J.

Iris L.

MN Chickadee, please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear Mother.  Please feel peace in all you have done.

Iris

ButterflyWings

MN Chickadee, my condolences on the passing of your dear mom.  

I wish you comfort and peace as you adjust to this next phase of life.

LicketyGlitz

Oh man. I'm so sorry. I hope after the shock wears off there will be memories of love and laughter to help get you through the grief, or at least make it more palatable. Thank you for inspiring and helping me just by being a part of this community.

Sending you and your family peace.

M1

So sorry MN. May you find rest and peace.

numb

So very sorry may your dear Mom RIP

Mint

So very sorry for your loss

harshedbuzz

MN Chickadee-

Wishing you peace and comfort at this time.

HB

Joydean

Mn Chickadee, I’m so sorry for your loss of your dear mother. Prayers for you and your family.

SusanB-dil

Sorry for your loss - give yourself time, eventually you will be able to smile more at the better times and memories.  Yes, know you were a blessing to her, and also ongoing with dad.

i hate the alz and other dementias, too!!

LovingAwareness

Peace to you, MN Chickadee. I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother is free now and she will always be with you. Keep her close to your heart.

Lane Simonian

I am sad that you have lost your mother.  You cared for her with all your heart.  I do believe, too, that she knew that.

wyoming daughter

Sorry for your loss.  I hope knowing you did all you could for her is of comfort.  Take care.

King Boo

Hoping for peace in your sorrow.  You did well.   Rest and sleep

ImMaggieMae

I am so sorry for your loss. There just aren’t words, but know that I’m wishing you peace and lovely memories of earlier times with her.

​fesk

I am very sorry for your loss.

mommyandme (m&m)

Oh my, I’m so sorry! I’m sad for you, thoughts of peace and comfort being sent your way.

abc123

Dear Chickadee,

I'm so sorry to hear that your mom has passed away. I can't begin to imagine how you feel. Our mother's are such a precious gift. You were a great caregiver for her and a loving daughter. Thank you for sharing her journey with us. I have always admired and respected you. I hope all of the happy memories come flooding back and fill your heart. Please come back when you are ready and let us know how you are doing. 

Sincerely,

abc

BassetHoundAnn

I'm so very sorry Chickadee. Nothing can prepare one for the loss of one's mother. You were an extraordinary caregiver and advocate for her and I'm sure she understood that and appreciated it. Sending you and your family peace and condolences. Hugs!

glitterqueenscare

I am very, very sorry for your loss.  I understand the anger, its hard to explain the swing of emotions and the anger and grief that this terrible disease brings to our doorstep.  I am glad she is at peace, now may peace come to you with time.  You are exactly right, you did absolutely everything in your power to help her combat and manage the illness. God Bless!

MN Chickadee

Thank you everyone. I'm doing ok. The rawness of it has worn off a bit, and though I still randomly burst into tears and everything reminds me of her, I am finding I can carry on. I am looking forward to the last month, or even last 5 years, fading away and going back to the memories of her before dementia. It is hard to accept how unfair this lot in life is, drawing the dementia card. But what can we do. I am looking forward to volunteering in her MC facility soon.

abc123

Dear Chickadee,

Thank you for letting us know how you are. I also hope the recent memories will fade quickly for you. This disease is so darn* unfair to all of us, especially our loved ones. My momma continues to fade away from us daily. Some days it seems she could possibly pass away and the next day her appetite is back and she responds. But on the days when she seems better, it's still less and less of her. Did that happen to your momma too? 

I hope you are taking good care of yourself.

Beachfan

I am sorry for your loss. I hope you can find peace and healing in the days ahead.  You went above and beyond in your caring for her; now take some time for yourself.

eaglemom

Please accept my deepest condolences. 

Report back when you feel up to it. We are here for you.

eagle