New to memory care(1)

MBhave

Hi all:

I'm brand new to this message board. My mom, 88 yr old was in assisted living for almost three years and recently moved to memory care in the same facility (three weeks ago). Her dementia (unspecified) seems to be rapidly advancing by the week. Twice the caregivers couldn't calm her down and have called me, with my mom in a panic. Does anyone else struggle with institutional caregivers who sometimes can't calm the resident?

It stresses me out and I'm constantly worried about the panicked calls.

Maya

sandwichone123

Maya,

Different facilities have different policies. Does your mom have a doctor, or does the facility have a doctor that can prescribe her something to reduce her stress? If you think about it, being moved somewhere you don't know, surrounded by people who get into your personal space would be stressful even for someone who could process it all normally. I hope you find a solution soon.

MBhave

Thank you for your reply. yes, I agree it must be overwhelming to her. Her dr. did prescribe some meds, which - when given - do calm her. I know this is a new journey ...and I appreciate your kind words

dayn2nite2

I'm sure the move has disoriented her and caused a great deal of anxiety, as even her caregivers are probably different.  Are they actually giving her the medications when she needs them or are they scheduled regularly during this time of extra stress?  They really shouldn't be calling you to calm her - I would have a discussion with a nurse or her physician about what's happening here - but first I would make sure they are administering the calming medication and allowing it to work before rushing to call you.