It’s a puzzlement

ElCy

How is it that my DH can remember every little bad thing he thinks I did (either recent or in the past) but he can’t remember that that we just watched a TV show 10 times in a row? Either way, it makes me crazy.

Ed1937

Last in, first out. Hope that makes sense.

ImMaggieMae

How is it that on some days my DH can’t remember my name (“You’re just you. You’re essential.”) after 43 years of marriage, but when we started streaming a TV series that he had watched 12 years ago which I never watched, he remembered the main character’s name later that night. The character’s name was Raylan Givens, from the show Justified. Even a few days later if I ask him he remembers. Not exactly a common name. Isn’t that strange?

PlentyQuiet

DH can't remember our plans for the day, but remembers that I used the last of the molasses two weeks ago. He never cooks so it is not something he would normally keep track of, nor was using it up a point of drama that would stay in his head. 

I'm trying to change to a more "go with the flow" mindset, but these things still surprise me.

Bob in LW

PlentyQuiet wrote:

DH can't remember our plans for the day, but remembers that I used the last of the molasses two weeks ago. He never cooks so it is not something he would normally keep track of, nor was using it up a point of drama that would stay in his head. 

I'm trying to change to a more "go with the flow" mindset, but these things still surprise me.

I agree that it is best to "go with the flow".  My SO's short term memory loss still surprises me at times because it gets progressively worse.  I have learned that it's usually best not to remind her of her lapses because it makes her depressed.  However, when she is in denial, such as, "I've always had a bad memory, so if it isn't important to me, I don't bother to remember", then I have to remind her of her problem so that she will face reality.  Getting her to recognize the many positive things we have in our lives is always a challenge.

Ed1937

Bob in LW wrote:

 

 then I have to remind her of her problem so that she will face reality.   

Bob, welcome to the forum. Sorry you have reason to join. But we have a good group here, and they offer understanding and support.

Have you heard of the term "anosognosia"? If you don't know what it is, please take a few minutes to watch a short video about it. Here's a link. Why your loved one doesn't believe they have dementia- It's NOT denial.