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My brother died

Crushed
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My brother who I was fighting for died yesterday in the hospital

His heart just gave out.  He had been declared fit for discharge to Rehab.  

At least I spared his widow the feeling that he had gotten less than full care. 

 

  

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  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,674
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    So very sorry for the loss of your brother Crushed.
  • Donr
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    Sorry to hear about losing your brother.
  • Ed1937
    Ed1937 Member Posts: 5,084
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    Sorry for your loss. He was lucky to have you in his corner.
  • Battlebuddy
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    So sorry Crushed. It’s so hard to have other types of loss and grief while on this journey. I feel for you.
  • loveskitties
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    So sorry for your loss.  You were there for him when he needed your support.  I am sure his wife appreciates that.

    May all who loved him find peace.

  • White Crane
    White Crane Member Posts: 851
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    Crushed, I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother.  Sending hugs.
  • Joydean
    Joydean Member Posts: 1,497
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    Sorry for the loss of your brother. I’m sure he was proud to have you fighting for him. Condolences to your family. 

  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    So sorry for your loss. Your care has not gone unnoticed. Prayers for you.
  • Davegrant
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    Sorry for your loss. 

    Dave

  • mrl
    mrl Member Posts: 166
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    I'm sorry Crushed, it hurts...

    Michele

  • Sligo177
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    Dear Crushed,

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  Prayers for you.

  • Paris20
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    I send my condolences on your loss.
  • Pam BH
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    Crushed, I'm so sorry. So glad you advocated for him and made a difference
  • Michael Ellenbogen
    Michael Ellenbogen Member Posts: 991
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    So sorry for your loss.
  • Jo C.
    Jo C. Member Posts: 2,916
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    Crushed; I am very sorry for the loss of your brother; you did well for him and his wife, she as been protected from second guessing and much regret or even guilt had he been sent out of the acute hospital to a "rehab" in such a condition.

    J.

  • Lane Simonian
    Lane Simonian Member Posts: 348
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    With deepest sympathy to you and your family, Crushed.
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  • Lills
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    Crushed, I'm so sorry for your loss!  Cherish the sibling memories!
  • Crushed
    Crushed Member Posts: 1,442
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    Thank you all

     

     any man's death diminishes me,  because I am involved in mankind.  And therefore never send to know for whom  the bell tolls; it tolls for thee. 
  • ImMaggieMae
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    Crushed, I am so sorry t hear of the loss of your brother. He was lucky to have you in his corner.
  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,404
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    I’m sorry for your loss.  His widow can be comforted by your work on his behalf.  Who knows what location he would hand  been when it happened otherwise/ she would have been left to wonder what might have been.
  • Iris L.
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    Please accept my condolences to you in the loss of your brother, Crushed.  Your family does stick together!

    Iris

  • Beachfan
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    I am sorry for your loss, Crushed.  I have but one sibling left- - my “little brother”.  We stick together like glue.
  • Pat6177
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    My sincere condolences to you and to your brother’s family.
  • caberr
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    Crushed, I am so sorry
  • Rescue mom
    Rescue mom Member Posts: 988
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    I am sorry for your loss. May you find some comfort in knowing how much you helped him and his family.
  • abc123
    abc123 Member Posts: 1,171
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    Sending my sincere condolences to you.
  • piozam13
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    I'm sorry for your loss. May your brother rest in peace.
  • DrinaJGB
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    This is heartbreaking. I am so sorry you are going through this.

      I lost my brother in 2010 and I still miss him.He died a few weeks before DH went into a coma from encephalitis, so I did not really have time to grieve.

      I have a little antique table in my bedroom with an old picture of my brother in a silver frame at the beach with his dog. It is my favorite picture of him.He looks so carefree and young and beautiful and alive.Beside the photo is a tiny book of poems of the sea and a tiny silver bird statue.

      I look at him every day and say hello. I hope you can find some comfort and peace while you feel the profound loss of your beloved brother, and that one day his memory will make you smile again.

    dj

  • A. Marie
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    Crushed, I add my sympathies to everyone else's on your loss. At least you have the consolation of knowing you did everything you could for your brother and your SIL But another major loss on top of what you're already dealing with is awful.

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