First theft

M1

Well we crossed another threshold today, my partner asked me if someone had been here "while we were out" to steal things from her room.  Of course we haven't been out.  The Seroquel she takes for sleep may keep this dampened, but it is a new delusion, for sure.  Didn't last very long, but there it is.  Of course, the disease is the robber, and we're both being robbed.

Gig Harbor

I can handle a lot but I hate the confusion. Today the first for us is my husband repeatedly calling me to say the TV is not working and, of course, it is. The TV has been what has calmed him down and kept him quiet and now it is agitating him. How do you handle confusion day after day? The hours stretch out ahead of me and it is so lonely. I would much rather be alone in the house so I could clean and work on projects. I guess day care is next. You are exactly spot on about Alzheimer’s stealing our life.

Ed1937

I'm sorry it is so darn hard. I haven't had to deal with delusions from my wife, but we have a son who has had delusions for more than 10 years. For some reason, it hasn't been so bad lately. Keeping fingers crossed. I know how hard it can be.

Joydean

M1, I’m sorry about the delusion. You are so right about this disease being the robber, it just takes and keeps on taking! 

Best of luck to you and yours. 

Stuck in the middle

It is easy to see how this happens.

I can't find X.  Therefore, it is not where I left it.  It must have been stolen.  All quite logical if we assume I can remember where I left X.

ButterflyWings

M1 - So sorry you had this shock and yes, the thief is dementia. At least she didn't accuse you of stealing it though! That was usually my DH's first assumption: "What did you do with...? Why did you move/take my...? Where did you put my money, it was in my wallet so you must have taken it out" (not, he didn't even have cash, but of course I took it =|)

Funny, I thought of his old "theft delusions" today almost nostalgically believe it or not. We were in the bathroom where I always accompany him to assist now. DH says "what's that?".  I tried to follow his gaze but could be anything, so I asked "what?". "That black thing", he says. Surprised and saddened to learn he's had another loss -- I picked up my heart and replied: "the phone? It's a cell phone. That's my phone". 

It was weird feeling like I missed the old days where at least he knew what a cellphone was, even if he accused me of taking his (which used to make me so mad!, although I eventually did actually take it, when it had to be disappeared for multiple safety reasons lol.) Laughing to keep from crying. What a mess, right? This all sucks. And then it goes downhill from there.

I'm sorry M1. Hopefully it will be a while before you see more progression.

abc123

Oh M1, I'm so sorry. I am truly sad for you both. The disease is progressing on my end also.

caberr

That is happening here as well.  The other day, DH said someone stole the stereo.  I told him no it's still in the living room.  He was looking but couldn't see it.  I swear he was looking right at it.  I put in a couple cd's and he was fine until the music ended.  I heard him banging and he said he was getting really mad because someone stole the stereo!  Fun times!

ButterflyWings

Caberr-  that’s one of those “it would be hilarious if it wasn’t just so sad” moments that comes with the territory. Dementia is truly comedy and tragedy personified.

I wonder if he was not recognizing the current stereo anymore...maybe looking for an older device he used to have years ago since our LOs time travel sometimes (?)

Pam BH

It's always an unpleasant surprise and confusion on just how to respond so he keeps relatively calm and not anxious. DH is convinced someone is outside every night trying to steal our very large propane tank. No response when I tell him they'd really have a hard time since it weighs 1700 pounds. Someone else is always trying to steal his wallet so it's hunt and find whenever we need it.  Never thought I'd have to try improvisation at this stage of our lives dealing with his multiple delusions including playing along like I'm his ex-wife.  Good luck to you and I hope there won't be multiple delusions for you, but if there are do whatever you can to find the humor in it if at all possible to keep yourself sane