Lost wedding dress

toolbeltexpert

For a couple weeks now my dw has been fixated on our wedding. She asked me if we were married for several days. She have found a wedding album I think that was the trigger. Last night she was feeling sad she remembered she had asked me if we were married. We talked about it and she knows something is wrong,I asked her to get a checkup and she sounded like maybe she would but them changed her mind. But to get to the latest issue, she has remembered that she threw her wedding dress out and she may have I kinda remember her saying so, many years ago. Well this morning she said she changed her mind and needed to dig it out of the trash.she went thru the trash inside and then the outside and then the inside. Arghhhh I have to find this wedding album,she has put it somewhere I can't find but I am sure it is the trigger. This is so crazy. It is torturing her to tears.

Ed1937

toolbeltexpert wrote:

I asked her to get a checkup and she sounded like maybe she would but them changed her mind. 

Do you think it might help if you told her there were many conditions that could cause her problems? Some of these can be treated with great success, and the symptoms could get better or disappear completely. Sure, it's a longshot, but worth pursuing.

toolbeltexpert

Ed I agree and tried that strategy last night. I might just go ahead and schedule a  checkup. Our neighbor is a general practitioner, he knows what's going on, though it's not first hand. It always him listening to me.  Dw used to sit with the docs mother at the docs home. When the doc built his house he had a seperat quarters for his mom. Huge walkin shower with multiple shower heads,very well thought out.. The doc told me he could diagnose her. The wife is kinda unsure if she wants her neighbor to she her most private parts.  But I might use him as he is also on staff at the local hospital. She is scheduled to have her cataract removed on the 31st, she doesn't remember but I will tell her a day or two in advance, like I did with the evaluation appointment, that way I won't go crazy with all the questions. She may have to be sedated and that is my only fear that it's gonna knock her father back. This is a quality  of life thing and I want her eye fixed maybe it will help with some of the issues. Lately I can walk in a well lit room and surprise her.  I was gonna ask about incontinence. The other day I walked in her room and she was wiping herself, she said she had an accident and was gonna change her underwear. Does it start out like this? As we all get older little accidents happen I am just wondering. Thanks for listening mayor.

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toolbeltexpert

Victoria2020 there have been some advances in this surgery. No stitches, no drops. Checkup visit the next day. She is using magnifying  glasses now. The surgery has a type of antibiotics  instilled at the surgery. She will have to put up with the shield for a day or two.  She may not be cooperative that is going to be up to her, that's going to determine the level of sedation. I don't  think she she's ready for the pull-ups yet. I am not sure if this is the beginning or not.  She's had some big changes in the last month or so. I agree with not giving advance notice. Maybe the night before? She won't remember  any way. All the way to the eye specialist she keep asking what we were going for and I just repeated the same thing, that went well.

Ed1937

toolbeltexpert wrote:

I was gonna ask about incontinence. The other day I walked in her room and she was wiping herself, she said she had an accident and was gonna change her underwear. Does it start out like this? 

That's a possibility, but it might have just been a one time thing. I hope that's the case here. It also could be intermittent. That's the way it started with my wife.