Thoughts, advice

Sunrise24 · March 2022

My DH’s adult daughters had a falling out about 7 years ago and have not spoken to each other. My DH currently believes that they have repaired their relationship and says he he happy about that. It is not true and we will be invited to events on both sides in the near future…. A dance recital may involve both parties being at the same place, same time…. Do I just tell them what he is believing right now and decline any invitation or tell him the truth. I hate to tell him the truth if it is going to upset him ….. it is a sad situation because there are young grandchildren involved….

Ed1937 · March 2022

I would tell them what he believes, and see how they react. Maybe the relationship can be repaired. If, after talking to them, you feel that he and his daughters will cause a commotion, consider declining the invitation. If everyone attended, and things were not resolved, could you keep them from coming in contact with each other? But do tell them what he believes. You may be surprised at their reactions.

I hope I'm reading this right. Did the daughters have a falling out with each other, or is it between his daughters and him?

Sunrise24 · March 2022

Thanks for your thoughts! The falling out was between the two daughters but one daughter has basically sh-- out her mother as well…. Very fractured family (they are my step-daughters)…. Yes, I may just tell them both where he is at in his mind…. They are both nurses so should understand the position I am in….

Ed1937 · March 2022

We had something similar in our family. When my wife was diagnosed, I asked them to bury the hatchet. They did, and you would not know there had been a problem now. Good luck to you.

CStrope · March 2022

Tell them it's time to suck it up and fake it!!

jfkoc · March 2022

I would pretty much go to anything involving my grandchildren and avoid the falling out topic as much as possible dismissing it as a sibling spat when you must address it.