Bad Week(1)

Kevcoy

This has not been a good week.  About a week ago I noticed everything in our eight year old LG refrigerator wasn't cold any more and that all the ice had melted.  I called a number of appliance repair places only to be told they don't service LG refrigerators because they have something different about their compressors so I had to call the manufacturer.  He came out a couple days later and said he had to order a part.  Came back on Friday and said it was fixed. Well, low and behold it's still not cold or even cool.  Called them back and will be there tomorrow.  I just hope we don't have to get a new one.  Thank goodness for our 15 year old Kenmore frig in the garage that is still doing great.

Then yesterday my DH took our neighbor's dog for about an hour walk like everyday.  Shortly after he left I went into the garage to pick up the food bowls for the feral cats we feed.  I couldn't believe it when the door closed behind me it was locked.  I didn't bring my keys and only had on gym shorts, a tee shirt and socks in 48 degree weather.  The front door was locked too so I sat on a chair on the porch freezing until he got home.

I am part of a family corporation that gets small dividends every year and don't get my tax forms from them until very late.  Yesterday afternoon I printed out the forms and went to my desk where I had my folder with all of our tax forms in a drawer with other folders on top to keep it out of DH sight.  My heart fell when I found the folder wasn't there any more.  Of course DH denied having anything to do with it not being there.  Our tax man will file an extension but this sort of thing gets my heart racing.

Last thing, I promise, is Easter Sunday is my DH's birthday and his brother asked us to come over for lunch.  He said their mother will be there and wanted to know if that would be a problem.  The same mother I haven't let in the house since early Feb. when she accused me of stealing from her and her knocking off my glasses and throwing things at me.  DH says I should forgive her but I will not go there.  I don't know what to do about going over.

Buggsroo

Hi Kevkoy,

Does the brother know about the issues that you and your mother in law have? If so, you can decide who gets to come and who should stay away. It sounds manipulative on the brother’s part or maybe he can’t stand up to her as well. I am sorry you are struggling with this awful woman. If she does come, the event will go pear shaped pretty quickly, so in the interest of keeping things pleasant, so I would use your veto power.

A. Marie

Kevcoy, I too recommend not going to the lunch. Keep it simple and just tell the brother-in-law that it will be too much for your DH to handle (which it probably will be). Save yourself the stress.

ladyzetta

Dear Kevcoy,

I agree with the other two posters. No reason to give you any more stress. If your DH really wants to go how about dropping him off at his brothers and you take a few hours to yourself, you deserve some time for yourself. Hugs Zetta 

JJ401

I am sorry to hear about your refrigerator. Ours had problems at the very beginning of Covid. It was a nightmare. Our preferred repairman had Covid. Four visits, two new repairmen, to fix. It cost almost as much as a new one, but since we need a smaller one to fit in our old house, a new one was not available. I hope yours fixes faster than ours. 

The tax stuff is someone safe. Hopefully, you find that safe place soon.

As to BIL. I would not go. I also would not drop DH off. I would not want to deal with the fallout of whatever MIL said to DH while he was there. I am envisioning her repeating her stealing accusations to DH all afternoon. 

ButterflyWings

Kevcoy-sounds like you got all the bad stuff out of the way at the beginning of the week so let’s hope it is smooth sailing for the duration. I agree with the others, don’t participate in your own unhappiness by ignoring the healthy  boundaries you have set in that nightmarish MIL situation. 

I’m so sorry you got locked out in the cold!!! You deserve some extra tlc self-care for sure. 

All that cold but not in your fridge of course. I was so shocked to see a post about the LG lemon fiasco. They got me too. I’m furious. Cannot afford thousands to repair or replace a 2+ year old fridge that is (now) known to be defective.  https://www.consumerreports.org/lawsuits-settlements/lg-settles-class-action-lawsuit-over-refrigerator-compressors/

Stuck in the middle

What a week!

Kevcoy, I'm glad your BIL warned you about your MIL's presence at Easter dinner so you can know whether to accept or decline his kind invitation.  

I think forgiveness would be the Christian thing to do.  Refusing to allow her contact with you or your husband would be the wise thing to do.  Can you do both?  I think I would tell your husband I forgave her, but I wasn't exposing myself to a repeated assault because then I would have to press charges.

I don't hate rattlesnakes for being what they are, but I avoid them.

SylviaLockett

We all have "bad weeks"....hopefully they even out.

Regarding locking yourself out of the house.  We've got an electronic lock on our front door.  You enter your code and it unlocks.  This lock is part of our home security, but you can buy electronic locks at Home Depot.