Death and a Thank You Note

Bluestone

My DH died last Sunday. Although I posted only a couple questions on the forum during our three-year journey, in the last year I used the it as both an encyclopedia and a source of comfort. I had so many questions and felt so much pain during this time. I finally opted to place my DH in memory care on March 8. Once there he declined quickly--though I had begun to see the beginning of a decline just before I placed him. Little did I know he would die a month later. I would like to think he willed it that way. What I do know is that his suffering his over. Thank you to all who contribute information and solace to the forum. You kept me going.

Mint

Bluestone I am so sorry about the loss of your DH.

Lynne D

My condolences for your loss.

MTonya

I’m sorry for your loss. My condolences..

Joydean

My condolences also in the loss of your DH. I pray for peace and comfort for you!

LadyTexan

Dear Bluestone. 

I am so very sorry for your loss. I recently lost my DH too. I don't have words to describe how unreal my life seems right now. 

I have found this forum to be both informative and comforting. It is one of the best resources I had access to during the dementia journey.

May God watch over you and comfort you and your loved ones.

-LT

JoseyWales

Dear Bluestone, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. 

I also placed my husband on March 8. That was quite a day. I'm glad you had the support of the nurses and staff there to help you through his last month. 

David J

Bluestone- I’m sorry for your loss and I understand keeping things close to your chest. Be good to yourself and know you did everything possible for your LO.

toolbeltexpert

Bluestone I  am so sorry for the loss of your dh.

Marie58

Bluestone, I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray that you feel God's peace and strength to get you through this tough time.

Ed1937

I'm sorry, Bluestone. He is in a better place now. May God give you peace and strength for the coming days.

jfkoc

Dear Bluestone.....please add my condolences and please know that there is a Stage 8 here.

Buggsroo

Bluestone,

I am very sorry for your loss. My condolences.

Pat6177

Bluestone, my sincere condolences on the loss of your DH. And I agree, this forum is so helpful.

Joe C.

I am sorry for you loss. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

Davegrant

I am sorry for your loss.

Bluestone

Thank you for all the condolences. I was so focused on Stages 6 and 7 during the past year that I never learned what Stage 8 was. Now I know. Daunting.

harshedbuzz

Bluestone-

I am sorry for your loss. 

HB

Jo C.

Dear Bluestone, I send condolences on the death of your beloved husband.  Like you, the wonderful people here kept my head above water during the worst of times.

There are many here who have lost their LOs and have entered Stage eight.  If you wish, please feel free to come and visit as much as you wish; we are all still here for one another both during the dementia journey as well as afterward.  You would  have much experience to share with others if you wish to do so.

The next days will be busy and much to acclimate to, let us know how you are when you have the time and will to do so.  We will be thinking of you.

J.

Last Dance

I'm sorry for your loss. Do not worry or wonder if your husband willed his death this disease is horrible, and it can change on a dime. My wife went downhill really fast I put her in memory care and six weeks later she passed away. I do not believe or think that it was because she was in memory care, I think it was just time for her to go. I wish she was here with me just as you wish that he was here with you, but they no longer suffer and we need to take joy and comfort in that, even though it is sad. God’s Blessings to you.

Paris20

Bluestone, you have my condolences. Caregiving for a DH, whose outcome is certain, takes strength and fortitude we never knew we had. May his memory be a blessing to you.

Jeff86

My deepest condolences to you, Bluestone, on the loss of your DH.  His suffering is over; time for your healing to begin.  Blessings to you.

abc123

Dear Bluestone, I'm very sorry for the loss of your dear husband. You will be in my thoughts and prayers every day. Sending you peace as you find your way.