DH has begun his journal 'home'

Lills

My Dean Howard (DH!) died early this morning.  I was by his side.  I wish I could say it was a peaceful death but he was in much pain.  Prior to his death, I've not liked the phrase, "He's in a better place" but in this case, it's true.  Last night while holding his hand, I told him he'll be singing with the angels soon (He was a life-long choir member), and it's ok to go 'home' to see his parents. 

His long, long illness went through so many stages throughout the 12+ year illness.  Even though each stage brought on new challenges, he continued to be happy.  Never once in our 46 years of marriage did he ever raise his voice to me.  He was a staunch Catholic who never out-grew the image of an altar boy!  I rarely swore..but he never did!  

I will miss him dearly.

Thank you to all who shared our journey.  

Lills

Ed1937

Lills, I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm so sorry it wasn't easier for him. But his pain is now over, and that's something to be happy about for him. That was an awful long journey for both of you. I hope you can find peace and comfort in the coming days.

mrl

Dear Lills,

God Bless you. May your DH enjoy everything God has prepared for him.

Sincerely,

Michele

harshedbuzz

I'm so sorry Lills.

HB

A. Marie

I'm so sorry--sorry for your loss, and sorry that the process was so hard for him. But he is at peace now, and I hope that you will be at peace too in time. Namaste.

ButterflyWings

(((Lills))),

My deepest sympathies on the passing of your beloved husband. What a long love and life together, before this tragic disease. You have been an amazing wife and caregiver. Your insights and encouragement have helped me too many times to count. Sending you sincerest wishes and prayers that Stage 8 will bring you peace, in time

Joydean

Kills, I’m so sorry for your loss. I too have learned a lot from you, thank you. I pray that you find peace God grant you strength in the coming days and weeks.

June45

(((Lills)))

Jo C.

Dearest Lills, I am so very sorry. My heart goes out to you at such a heartrending loss.  May peace and solace soon come to you with knowledge that you loved greatly and went the distance and thensome.

J.

Bob in LW

I am so sorry for your loss.  I know that you have many fond memories of him which will be with you forever.

toolbeltexpert

Lillis sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.

jmlarue

May the love that abides and the precious memories of your life together strengthen you and sustain you in the days ahead.

60 falcon

I'm sorry Lills.

M1

Condolences Lills,  Peace to you.

ladyzetta

Dear Lills,

Peace be with you. You will be in my prayers. DH was at peace with you by his side. 

Hugs Zetta 

John1965

I’m simultaneously sorry and happy for you.  Sorry for a huge loss. Happy for the end of his misery and your chance of a bit more freedom and happiness. Words fail. I hope you understand what I’m trying to say.

Cherjer

I am so very sorry,,,you have given me inspiration on keeping your DH home...please know that your love has been leeping us all going...God welcomes him into heaven! Love you my dear friend in this difficult journey.

Pat6177

Lills, my deepest sympathies. May your memories comfort you. Take care.

Mint

Lills I am so very sorry for your loss of Dear Dean.

LadyTexan

Dear Lills.

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband Dean Howard. I wish I could wrap my arms around you with a warm and heart felt hug. You have been on such a long journey. Both you and Dean are indeed Alzheimer's Warriors. You have been an inspiration to me on so many difficult days, when I was encountering challenges I felt I could not endure.

May God watch over you and your loved ones. May He comfort you and give you strength. May He grant you peace.

With love and tremendous gratitude,

LT

abc123

Dear Lills, I am very sorry for the loss of your husband. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

amicrazytoo

So sorry for your loss. Sending (((HUGS)))

Marie58

Lills, so sorry for the loss of your beloved Dean. You both fought the good fight. May the Lord bless you and your family in this next stage.

piozam13

I'm sorry for your loss.  Please turn your attention to yourself.  Take care - grieving is a long journey.  Reach out - I'm here for you.

ImMaggieMae

Lills , I am so sorry about the loss of your dear husband. If his passing wasn’t easy, it was at least a blessing that you could be there by his side to help him pass and comfort him.

Jeff86

Heartfelt condolences on your husband’s passing.  His suffering is over; now it is time for you to heal.   May you find peace and comfort in the weeks and months ahead.

White Crane

Dear Lills, I am so sorry and am holding you in prayers.  Sending love and hugs.

Brenda

Beachfan

 Dear Lills,

 I am so sorry to learn of the loss of your husband. It took me by surprise, and saddened me. I always admired you for your perseverance in caring for him at home. It sounds as though the two of you made a great couple.  

 I always think of you at Christmas time, when I see the neighbors Christmas lights out my window. I remember that your neighbor left Christmas lights burning at night so your husband could see them from his bed. How sweet and kind.  And I always chuckle when I think about your post describing your DH leaving for a walk, wearing his bathrobe, winter boots, a winter hat and gloves.  I hope these memories of happier times will give you peace and sustain you. 

Take care of yourself. I am thinking and praying for both of you. 

Lynne D

Wishing you both peace. I am sorry for your loss.