How short is short

toolbeltexpert

This morning dw and I were doing our daily devotional. She reads the title and I read the scripture then she reads the devotion. So she reads the title this morning and I read the scripture then she rereads the title and waited for me to read the scripture again which I did. This is not the first time this has happened. This is less than a minute.  Yesterday at church she was trying to find the page in the study book,, she was stuck in april and instead of going towards May she went back into april. She was getting frustrated so I helped her, she was ready to leave at that point.She is getting depressed because she does not remember any thing. For example, she hasn't been to town, or church or anywhere.  She said she has cabin fever cause she hasn't gone anywhere. I take the fall no matter what. If she feeds the cats, 2 minutes later she'll ask if I did, if I say I did she gets mad cause that's her job,if I say no i did not ,she gets angry and depressed. I keep trying different fibs, I have tried to play dumb. Lately nothing works. Last week I had to physically restrain her she got so mad,she threatens do harm herself. Something has got to give. Does anybody think that if she got treatment for her depression it would help? I am gonna try to get her to a physician. Neither one of us has a doctor.  Pray that I can get some help for her.

Quilting brings calm

Both an anti anxiety and an antidepressant could help.  It did my mom.  The neurologist NP commented that some of her issues were depression.   She would have prescribed them if the family doctor hadn’t.   We did see improved cognitive function, but it’s not going to ‘cure’ her  dementia and there will still be some  anxiety and depression .  You will need to get your wife into a doctor-patient  relationship first,  it will br hard to get them to prescribe those on a first visit

Ed1937

Stewart, I'm sorry. It's really hard to find wins with this disease. I don't have anything to add to the above post, but I think a visit to a doctor is warranted.

Rick4407

Stewart as was said above you will absolutely need a Neurologist or Geriatric Psychiatrist.  You should have a family practice doctor as well as some illnesses can impact your DW's dementia substantially, such as a UTI.  The process of getting in to see a dementia specialist usually takes 6 months or so.  You need to start that process immediately.

How short is short?  My DW can no longer read and will forget what she is talking about mid sentence.  TV is out she cannot follow characters or any story line at all.  Sometimes she calls me "Dad".  She does not recognize either of her children.   The disease only goes one way, every month there are new losses.  

This forum is a preview of coming events, read here a lot.  Good luck, Rick

Joydean

I completely agree with what you’ve already been told. I know you have read many times those that mention the different meds their love ones are on. They don’t work instantly but they can and do help with depression and anxiety. I can say 2 years ago my DH was having panic attacks so bad he was out of his head. Trying to kill his self, I called 911 and thank God the sheriff that got here first understood and kept him calm till medical people arrived. DH told all of them he was still going to kill his self because he could not live with all the panic attacks. He ended up having to spend a week in mental hospital. This was of course during Covid and I was not allowed to see him. VA doctors finally got him on right meds to help. 

Please don’t keep waiting, get her medical help. Prayers for you and your wife!