Mom passed away(2)

Wild-West

Hi Everyone,

Wanted to let you all know that on Thurs my sweet little mom finally got her dearest wish - to be with the Lord. I'd noticed her declining quite a bit in the last month, and had posted recently about these sort of exhausted collapses that I didn't understand. She lives/d in our home, and there were some pretty rough moments at the end until we got her meds figured out, but eventually she was able to be comfortable and peaceful (thank God for hospice!!!)

At the end, we had a beautiful and magical moment. We had all gathered around her bed and prayed for her when suddenly, after 3 days of being in a sedated sleep, she opened her eyes. She looked intently at my brother and I as if to say, "I love you," and "good-bye," and then she was gone. Such a beautiful exit for her sweet little soul.

So, DH and I are beginning our healing process. We're so happy that she's no longer suffering., and we're grateful that we were there to offer her safe passage. At times we thought we'd never make it, but we did.  Someone recently posted (I think it was May Flowers??) that when you're going through it, it feels like it  will never end, but it does end - everything passes. I've held onto that thought a lot lately. 

I'm so grateful for this forum of beautiful human beings who sacrice their time to respond to others even in the midst of their own pain. Thanks, everyone - so, so much! I'm not sure if I'll stick with the forum, but we'll see what happens.

All my best,

Wild ...

ButterflyWings

Wild-West, heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your dear mother. What a blessing you were able to support her last part of this challenging journey and receive her silent thanks!!! May she rest in perfect peace and may your days from here forward be blessed.

May flowers

Oh, Wild-West, I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like her passing was as peaceful and comfortable as any of us could hope for our LOs. What a touching moment she was able to express her love and say goodbye to you. That brought tears to my eyes.

(((Hugs)))

​fesk

Wild-West, I'm very sorry for your loss but glad her passing was peaceful and you were able to share that moment and say goodbye.

I am wishing you peaceful days ahead.

harshedbuzz

I am sorry for your loss.

toolbeltexpert

Wild west I am sorry to hear about your mom passing. She is rejoicing  in heaven now. Praying for your peace. Thank you for your post.

dayn2nite2

WW, I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom.  I don't care what age a person is when they lose a parent, it's devastating.  I am, however, very glad it went the way you experienced.  Sometimes things occur in the death process that are amazing and you got one of those.

Give yourself time to feel all the feelings and cry when you need to.  A death from dementia is a different thing - at first it's a mixture of a lot of emotions and then later sometimes the tears come at the strangest times.  Let 'em come.

NuttyProfessor

Thank you for sharing this Wildwest, and sympathies to you & family for your loss. 

I suspect it's mixed with a sense of relief, but it's still a sad moment for sure.  Let's all hope for something that will help prevent this horrid disease.

mommyandme (m&m)

I’m so grateful that you’ve shared here with us.  I will be thinking of you and yours and you move on in stage 8.  Your mom is so blessed that you were by her side through all of this.  Be kind to yourselves. Keep smiling.

LicketyGlitz

I'm wishing you and your DH happy memories as you work through your grief, Wild. So very sorry.

SusanB-dil

Hi Wild-West -

Sorry for your loss. Thank you for posting the beautiful ending you had with her.  

Daughter80

Thank you for sharing.  Tears and prayers for you all. So sorry for the loss of your mom.

Jo C.

Dear WW, I extend my sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your beloved mother. Your description of her last "loving look" with you and her peaceful passing are very touching.  Do let us know how you are doing, we will be thinking of you.

J.

Olly_Bake

Hugs and love Wild West