Hospitalized dad update

CatsWithHandsAreTrouble

Dad's been home for about half a week now after a stroke. He's basically back at his normal but the doctors are concerned about arrhythmia and sleep apnea. As much as he bugs me, I'm so glad he's home and finally getting his health back in order.

I got in contact with a CELA law firm and we discussed my situation and intents. Thankfully they offer "packages" with set pricings for the different services they can do so I know how much it will be out the door. Dad's somewhat open to getting a POA which I'm thankful that I won't have to fight him on that. It'll just be a matter of time to get in the office to get the paperwork done. Now I just have to get him on board for planning if/when mom needs placed and what he's going to do when that happens.

The person I talked to also set me up with contacts for someone who could help get a guardianship for mom. She claims the person is very affordable, so that was nice she was aware of the general costs of the process. I would like to not be my mom's guardian but I also am having second thoughts about my older sister being it, when initially we were okay with that. I can't help but feel she'll unintentionally cause trouble for my younger sister and me down the line as caregivers.

I'm so glad things seem to be moving along now but I still am so anxious. The future is so scary but it's nice to know others have forged a path ahead of me and others are here alongside me traversing together.

May flowers

Cats, it sounds like you are making some headway with the legal stuff - that’s good! I’m glad your dad is home but I will be thinking of you - I know his being there may create new challenges. I hope he moves forward with the POA with his recent health scare being fresh in his mind.

SusanB-dil

Agreeing with May Flowers - glad you are moving along with it all.

do check the difference between POA and DPOA, however. Also one of you should have HIPAA permissions...

harshedbuzz

YMMV, but I would not accept responsibility for caregiving if I was not solo primary agent on a POA. 

"He who wipes the butt gets to decide on placement and spending money for care"

sandwichone123

When we did the DPOA and other paperwork for my dh, we were able to meet with the attorney virtually, and only had to go in person to sign the completed forms. That might make things easier if you and your attorney were comfortable with it.