I am in your debt AlsConnected

FloydSnax

My life was upside down and my mind was ready to explode. I didn't know what to do. But I knew I couldn't continue like that. My mom's paranoia, constant sobbing, these imaginary children, people coming to get her/us... My first day on this site, I was given this one tool by the kind people here. REDIRECT! Now, it is night and day. The black cloud has been lifted (for now).  

Before:

Mom: They're coming, and they want to take the little girl. (sob,sob,panic)

Me: Mom....there is no little girl here. We live here alone and have for ten years now. Please relax because there is no reason for your feeling so bad. It's in your head blah blah blah.

Which made her behavior worse and continually throughout the day or night... every 15 minutes. There isn't even a word to describe what this was doing to me. 

Now:

Mom: They're coming, and they want to take the little girl.

Me: There's no way I would let that happen mom. No way in the world. Why don't we pick out some clothes for after your shower.

It's so basic and I can't believe I didn't realize it myself. There are still many other horrible things to deal with but this one was pushing me to the edge. Not anymore and I have you nice people to thank. Next time I get pushed back to that edge...I know I could find some help here. I am in your debt.

sandwichone123

That's so wonderful to hear! Thank you for letting us know!

Jo C.

Thank you for sharing; every little win means a lot.  It took me forever to learn about validating feelings and not just paying attention to and giving feedback to the skewed thinking and words. Also had to learn not to argue true facts against my Loved Ones (LOs) delusions.   Simple, but until I learned from the wonderful folks here, I did not see it and learning saved much angst and helped to bring peace as much as could be.

We all fly by the seat of our pants when first entering the dementia world and we all climb the learning ladder rung by rung; when coming here, we get a hand up those rungs.. 

This is the place with the wonderful people that kept my head above water during the worst of times, and who taught me so much early in my journey;we are not judged and we are taken seriously.

Glad to have you join us in this supportive, safe place.

J.

​fesk

Glad to hear things are going better. 

I'm learning constantly from the people here. I try to contribute and help when I can now.

mommyandme (m&m)

Thank you for sharing!