I need advice please

bigfoot2you

My  DH has started wetting his pants...........not just a little.  Is this something that goes with this disease?   He just had a bunch of blood work so I know it's not a UTI........When I ask him if he's wet he says no but when I check he is...........I asked him can't he feel it???  He says no.........he's not embarrassed about it and I told him I'm not angry that it happens but it does make me mad when he just sits in it and won't change............he says he just doesn't care anymore..............sigh    Am I right in thinking he is just being lazy not wanting to change or is this just another piece of this wonderful disease??

Ed1937

I hate to say this, but it's just another piece of the disease.

bigfoot2you

Well,  I'll just buy him the depends that look like regular shorts and maybe I won't have to fight with him to use them..........

Ed1937

Put them in his drawer, and take the other undies out. Don't let him see them. If he wets them too much, you might have to order better briefs. If you do, try parentgiving.com. I used them for over a year, and found the company to be very good. They have a large selection of incontinence products, and you can order samples for many (most?) of them. I think samples are three dollars, and they come with a pair of them in a package. They also have a phone number on the site where you can call to talk to someone about what might be best to order.

JJAz

Not only is incontinence a normal part of the disease, it is also normal that he doesn't notice that he is wet or dirty.  He's definitely not just being lazy.

Hoot619

You may have one heck of a time getting him to change them , with your help or by himself. My DW is in chair now and I can't get her to get up so I can change her.  It gets worse as time goes on. They don't understand. DW is not the person I married, this disease took that away. Think of it as a new born growing up ,BUT in reverse for our LO's. All they have learnt is going away.

Buggsroo

Anything to do with pee and poo, I feel I can answer this. Yes, this is part of the disease. My husband has both pee and poo in his depends. He happily pads along even though his depends are full. Being unable to feel when pee or poo are coming is part of this disease. I suggest you get him some good disposable briefs etc and lose the cloth underwear.

Believe me, I know how you feel, sigh, you get used to it. 

Good luck with this.

Tealover

I have been dealing with incontinence issues with my DH for awhile now. I have tried the Depends and they do not always help. Worst time is at night. Often he does not know that he has to get up and go to the bathroom. Thank you for the advice relative to another brand to try. Some days and nights are better than others, but incontinence is an everyday issue. 

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