A safe & peaceful passage.

abc123

My momma died yesterday morning at 8:34. It was incredibly peaceful and beautiful. I was holding her hand. The nurse was here with us. She came on at 8am. I had checked on Mom at 4 am, her breathing had changed but it wasn’t alarming, just different. The new nighttime caregiver was hard asleep. I purposely made noise to wake her. I got up again about 7. Mom was still peaceful and calm. When the nurse came in @ 8am, I was telling her about the change in breathing. I was holding her hand and the nurse said she’s gone, she’s gone. It was like a huge boulder of sadness had been removed from my heart, from my soul. I hope and pray that a cure will be found for all of the different dementia’s. When I think about what we all have been through and so many of us just starting out, not to mention our loved ones- I get sad and extremely angry. No one should have to experience this hell. Ever.

All of you here made me a better person, a better daughter. I would have never made it without you. 

Sincerely,

abc123

Pat6177

abc123, my deepest condolences. You have been such a loving daughter and caregiver. Take care of yourself over the next few days, with whatever arrangements there will be for your mom. I’m guessing that your family will gather and I pray that will go smoothly. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

BassetHoundAnn

My condolences. Sending love and healing thoughts your way. Hugs.

Mint

I’m so very sorry ABC for the loss of your dear mother.

harshedbuzz

abc123-

I am sorry for your loss. 

I wish you rest and peace as you go forward.

HB

Quilting brings calm

In sympathy for your loss.   I know you will miss her and that your dad will too.   

Please rest and rejuvenate.  It been a long hard 2022 for you. 

Come back here when you are ready 

CatsWithHandsAreTrouble

ABC, thank you so much for sharing the journey of you and your mother here with us. Glad to hear that she had a peaceful passing, my heart is heavy for you. Peace be with you as you move on to this next chapter in your life.

May flowers

abc123, I am so sorry for your loss. You did such a amazing job taking care of her.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. 

M1

I woke up thinking about you.  I am glad it happened like it did--thanks to you.  Hope you and your dad (and your siblings) can move forward when you're ready.

And I hope you'll stay on the boards if they are still of help to you.

SusanB-dil

hi abc123 - so sorry for your loss, but it is nice to hear that this sadness is lifted for you.  You have been, and are, an inspiration.  ((hugs))

Ed1937

Abc, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you loved her deeply, but you know she's in a better place now. I pray for you and your family in the coming days.

Iris L.

ABC123, you gave your dear mom a tremendous gift, being with her at her last moments, along with all of your care.  Please accept my condolences in your loss.

Iris

EJ97

Dear abc123, oh gosh I am so sorry for the loss of your dear mom.  It's a difficult road and when the end comes it can be a relief and mixed with so much sadness. My mom passed on July 15th and it hits me in waves but there are times I am so grateful I was able to help her so much. As I am sure you feel too. Take deep breaths and be gentle with yourself.

jfkoc

Please accept my sympathy also. I, likeM1, hope that you will stay with us.

MN Chickadee

This disease that took our mothers is indeed so cruel. And yet I know you created beauty with your mother in this journey, as I did. The moments of smiles, the feeling of connecting with them on a totally different continuum outside of this time and place and reality.  You gave it your all and gave her a good send off. I'm thinking of you.

GothicGremlin

abc123 - You took such good care of your mom, and I'm so very sorry for your loss.  I wish you and your family peace in the coming days and months.

mommyandme (m&m)

abc123,

Your mom was blessed to have you along on her journey.  She’s at peace now and has been because of the loving care you gave so generously.  Very glad your father is nearer to you now too.  Please take good care of yourself as you move thru stage 8.  Thank you for sharing your life with us.  My thoughts are with you and yours. 

Battlebuddie

   You were a wonderful caregiver. You gave her your best and she benefitted so much from your care. 

    I’m so glad it was a peaceful and safe end. That’s all we can ask for. That and love . You have that to her all the way to the end. 

    My condolences and good job 

    

Hoot619

I;m glad you were with her at the end and all thru her trying times. You were there for her all the time. I know you will miss her, I wish I could say more but words fail me.  I'll have you in my prayers.

LicketyGlitz

abc,  you made a difference in our journey, being open and honest with you and your mom's stories. I bet she is so incredibly proud of you. Much peace as you work through your grief.

wyoming daughter

abc123 - bless you all.  I have been watchful of these boards since my dad passed in 2020 and we have helped mom in her journey.  I have found knowledge and strength through these boards.  Please know your posts have helped me tremendously and I have found new love and devotion to mom and a specialness with her that doesn't need describing.  Bless you all.  Prayers.  Rest.

​fesk

I am very sorry for your loss, abc123. I am glad that her passing was peaceful. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

ImMaggieMae

ABC, I am so sorry for your loss. You were there with her until the end. May she rest in peace. Please take care of yourself now.

dayn2nite2

ABC, I also am so sorry about the loss of your mom.  My mom had a similar passing and it is comforting when our LOs just sort of slip away like that.  

You accomplished amazing things for your parents and should feel great about that.  Please allow yourself to grieve when you need to and know that while it will never be "okay" the loss will become tolerable as time goes on.

JoseyWales

ABC, I'm so sorry for your loss. But it does sound like she passed peacefully and you were there for her.

Dawn MB

My thoughts and prayers for you ABC.   Your mom is now YOUR guardian angel.  Blessings to you and your family.

Olly_Bake

Sorry to hear of your loss abc123. It was incredibly peaceful and beautiful. You played a big role!

ButterflyWings

Dear abc123, please accept my deepest sympathy on the passing of your beloved mom. What an amazing daughter and caregiver you are. I am so happy to hear her transition was peaceful and sounds truly beautiful with you there holding her hand just as you have held on through thick and thin of this dementia journey. I pray you and your dad will rest easier now that she is free of this disease. Wishing you peace, rest, and blessings as you adjust to Stage 8. Well done, my friend.

Love&Light

abc123 sincerest condolences. You have been an inspiration to me and many others on this forum as we've navigated through this disease together. I am so very sorry for your loss and heavy heart. Please be gentle with yourself through this next stage.

Joydean

Abc, as so many others have said, so sorry on the loss of your mom. Your statement of feeling the heavy weight of sadness  lifting from your heart and soul to me is your mom letting you know she is now in the arms of Jesus. So glad her passing was peaceful.   I know you will miss her terribly but she is pain free now. I pray for peace and strength for you and your family in the coming days.

LadyTexan

My dear friend,

I am so very sorry for your loss. You are an amazing daughter and caregiver. Your mom was so very blessed to have you by her side. 

You have blessed all of us here, by sharing your journey and your wisdom. Thank you friend. Be well and take care.

Sending you love and hugs.

-LT