Not sure what to hope for

Elshack

DH has been in the hospital for a week due to an ankle broken in 2 places. I went to the ER via anbulance this week due to dehydration and anxiety. My nephew and his wife drove 4 hrs to visit. I can tell DH has regressed as when we visited he said he would meet us in the lobby. He knew who I was but had NO IDEA why he is in the hospital.

I have been taking care of him for 4 yrs and it has been difficult due to his explosive diarrhea  He had brain surgery 4 yrs ago after a fall and brain  bleeds and of course the Alzheimer's worsened. He is 92 and I am 82. Now this is crazy but I know he will regress as time goes on. They will send him to skilled  nursing for rehab and after that not sure but in the complex we live in they do have memory care. We live in independent living apartment now. I had a crazy thought that I would keep him engaged and just before this he was playing solitaire on the computer and we played cards. I know I can no longer take care of him and feel like I am hastening his death. I dread the day when he asks me when he can come back and live with me but I guess I will just say I am working on it and maybe it will be ...in a few days? 

I am praying he will pass away peacefully in his sleep but he has a strong heart. I don't even know what to pray for or hope for! 

May flowers

I am so sorry you are going through this, and for your own health issues as well. You have done an amazing job taking care of him. MC sounds like the best move for both of you and you can have some breathing room to focus on your own needs as well. Do you have any family or children to help come alongside and share the burden in all of this?

When my FiL was in MC, there were several couples whose LOs were in IL with the spouse in MC. They ate meals together, took walks, and even participated in some activities together. I always thought that was a good compromise- the spouse without dementia was close enough to spend time together without the burden of caregiving, but at the same time had enough distance to be able to recharge and engage in activities for themselves. I think we all need that for our physical and mental health.

ZackFootInMouth

Hope for more good days, good memories?

And peace of mind, for the both of you. Tranquil clear thoughts.