Transfer to Memory Care

Elshack

My DH has been in the hospital for almost 2 weeks after fracturing his ankle in 2 places. He is almost finished with in hospital rehab and will go to Memory Care in the bldg next to our independent living apartment.

I knew this would happen one day and I am a mixture of relief and anxiety as I have taken care of him for 4 yrs since his brain surgery. The cost is 99 % of our combined monthly income so I will go into CDs, money market etc. DH is 92 and I soon will be 83. Elder care attorney was not a feasible option. We do have all legal affairs in order. So I will be a 5 min walk away from his private room. I feel as if I am in a stupor buying single bed sheets and blankets and planning to move his recliner and lamp and tv to his new room. I have no idea what his reaction will be. Right now he has no idea why he is in the hospital even though his right foot is in a boot. At least he says he is not in pain. 

So I will turn over to the memory care staff all the jobs I have done for 4 yrs. I had reached my breaking point prior to this with his explosive diarrhea due to Crohns and his getting up 3 x in the wee hrs trying to make his coffee. I am the poster who was in the ER last week due to dehydration and anxiety. He is at level 6.5 Alzheimer's. Of course I will visit him everyday and hope I can keep it together and not burst into tears. 

BillieFL

Oh dear.. I am so sorry to read about you and DH. I joined this site a few months ago but I am so buys I cannot even read emails. I posted a question on another topic about how will my DH react to moving. Your post helps me a lot.. I know we will have to move to AL from home, but I am torn and scared.

HOW DID HE REACT TO MOVING WHEN YOU MOVED TO YOUR CURRENT PLACE?

quartlow2

You're in my heart. I hope it goes better than you fear it will. It reminds me of my experience with my parents. Mom needed MC and dad needed AL. We didn't want to split them up but didn't know what else to do. Dad eventually moved in with her. We prayed a LOT.