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Scruffydog
Scruffydog Member Posts: 1 Member
in Caring For a Spouse or Partner
My DH has not driven for three years. Today I could not drive because of a surgical procedure and he said he had a license and could drive. Looking for a kind, thoughtful response.

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  • loveskitties
    loveskitties Member Posts: 1,095
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    A dementia patient who has not driven in 3 years, if due to the disease, most likely should not drive even if accompanied by someone.

    Putting you, himself and the general public at risk is not advised.

  • Michael Ellenbogen
    Michael Ellenbogen Member Posts: 991
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    II don't say this to offen but I agree.
  • JDancer
    JDancer Member Posts: 479
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    I think Scruffydog is looking for a way to gently tell their LO they can't drive
  • Dio
    Dio Member Posts: 727
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    "Let's take advantage of the special offer from Uber/Lyft/Taxi... to take us to ___"

    "I think we deserve to be chauffeured around. I've always wanted to know how it feels to be chauffeured (or fill in with your own reason)."

    "Let's pretend we're on vacation and take a taxi so we don't have to deal with the driving (and all that traffic)."

    "Gas is so expensive these days; it's probably cheaper to use Uber/Lyft/Taxi."

  • M1
    M1 Member Posts: 6,788
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    Ditto here, first thing I thought of was some fiblet about having an Uber coupon that expires soon and that you wanted to use....
  • Ed1937
    Ed1937 Member Posts: 5,091
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    Scruffydog, welcome to the forum. Sorry you need it. Nobody here will tell you it's okay for him to drive. When you consider the risks vs. the benefits, I'm sure you'll agree.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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