Long night

Sandy222

My husband is getting so sad.  He's afraid I know.  Changes seem to be happening so fast..   Until now I have been able to help him but don't know what to say to him to reassure him.  After awhile he will act like everything is fine. I'm left with sadness and helplessness.  

Just need some understanding  

loveskitties

Have you shared this with his PCP?  Has he been diagnosed with some form of dementia?

There are meds which can and often are prescribed for depression.

Sandy222

He has been diagnosed with Alz

M1

Hi Sandy.  It would be expected for both of you to potentially develop depression over this diagnosis.  Certainly you are going to grieve, and there is an overlap for everyone between grief (which you don't medicate away) and depression.  

Some of the SSRI drugs (Zoloft, Celexa, Lexapro) have good track records in dementia patients and his PCP may be very comfortable prescribing one of those.  Worth a phone call, for sure.  Again, you're not going to change everything, but it may be worth a try at least.  Good luck.

May flowers

I am sorry about your DH. We didn’t have sadness but extreme anxiety especially in the days he knew he wasn’t right - he fought this disease with all his might. He had covered his walls with post it notes to remind him of things - it was so sad.

Zoloft helped him. Also a lot of walks, in the sunshine and fresh air. Make sure he is getting plenty of that. It really does help.

aannaa

This is really sad to hear. You need to come to terms with it. The fact that you are sad will not change anything, so spend more time with him.  My neighbor was also sick and his wife sought treatment for him. I remember how I helped her order medicine from https://www.canadadrugsdirect.com/ . The disease developed more slowly and she enjoyed every moment with him.

​fesk

Sandy, don't know where your husband is as far as progression. That might help determine some strategies to help. Looking into medication to help as already suggested is a good idea too.

This disease can be very depressing for both the patient and caregiver. I am sorry you are both going through this.

RyanBerger

Dementia and Alzheimer's are the worst human conditions I have ever encountered. My parents are old enough, so dementia is something we cope with. The most important thing is to give psychological help to those suffering from the disease and their relatives.