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She’s gone

David J
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My dear wife passed away this afternoon. An accomplished attorney, a loving wife, and the best person I’ve ever met. 15 years after retiring from the law because of this awful disease. My dear, beautiful, caring girl is gone. I don’t know what I am going to do now. 47 years together, everything to each other, and no children. I am devastated and lost.
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  • Dio
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    So sorry to hear! Know that she's in a good place now, and her suffering has ended. Hope you can start taking good care of yourself and live again. May the memories of her help to  keep her by your side and carry you through.
  • Joydean
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    Dear David please except my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your precious wife. My prayers are with you and your family. May God give you peace and strength .
  • saltom
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    David I'm so sorry about the loss of  your wife. She sounds like she was an amazing person. My sympathy is with you.
  • Jo C.
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    Dearest David, I am so deeply heartfelt sorry for the unimaginable grief of having lost your beloved wife who was such an amazing person.

    May the recalling of how you cared and took care be some bit of solace to you as you face these difficult days.   You went the distance and cared so much; if she could tell you, she would say how much that meant and how much she loves you.

    J.

  • JoseyWales
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    David, I'm so sorry. Please know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.

    This disease is just so horrible. She's now at peace. 

  • Lorita
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    Dear David,  please accept my sincere condolences on your loss.  So many of us know how you are feeling tonight.   Maybe it might help just a bit to know that your dear wife is no longer in the throes of alzheimers.  She is well now, David, just as she was when you all got married. Knowing that is one thing that helped me get through my loss.  Take care and rest.  She's still with you, in your heart.
  • toolbeltexpert
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    David I know that there are no words I can say to ease your immense heartbreak. I will pray for you David. Your a faithful caregiver.
  • Ed1937
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    David, I'm sorry for your loss. May you have strength in the coming days.
  • Pat6177
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    David, I’m so sorry for your loss. Know you did all you could to care for her. And your postings here helped so many of us. Be patient with yourself during this transition. Taken care.
  • Quilting brings calm
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    I’m so sorry for your loss.  47 years is a long time and I know the last several have been extremely hard.  Please rest, grieve, take some time to step away from us and then come back when you are ready
  • M1
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    David i am so sorry. We seem to be losing a lot of folks here in a short time span. I hope your memories of happier times will sustain you in time.
  • ImMaggieMae
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    David, my deepest sympathies for the loss of your dear wife. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.Her suffering is over.
  • 60 falcon
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    It's so hard David, I'm sorry.
  • Buggsroo
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    David, I am so sorry for the loss of your lovely wife. 

  • Jeff86
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    David,

    My deepest sympathies to you on the loss of your wife.   I have followed your journey closely, and know what a faithful, devoted caregiver you’ve been—and a very generous and thoughtful contributor to this board of your reflections  and experiences.

    It’s a blessing that your wife is no longer suffering, but you are shattered.   I hope your memories of many good years with your wife help, over time, to make you whole again.

    Jeff

  • DJnAZ
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    My sincere condolences. She is at peace now. I feel so bad for you and all of us that have lost, or will lose, our loved one to this insidious disease.
  • Iris L.
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    David J, please accept my condolences in the loss of your beloved wife.

    Iris L.

  • Joe C.
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    David, My sincere condolences on the loss of your wife. May you find some peace in the days ahead.
  • Pam BH
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    David, I'm so sorry. Praying for strength for the coming days followed by peace knowing you were a wonderful caregiver.
  • Faith,Hope,Love
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    Even though I'm fairly new here, please accept my most sincere condolences.  I pray God would comfort you in your time of grief.
  • John1965
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    I'm sorry. You have my sympathy.
  • Lills
    Lills Member Posts: 156
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, David. My DH died 4 months ago today so I truly understand that losing a spouse is the most painful thing in the world and it seems so surreal.  

    My condolences! 

  • White Crane
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    David, I am so sorry.  Please know that you are in my prayers.
  • Davegrant
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    David,

    Sorry for your loss. Today  my wife and I  will celebrate our 54th wedding Anniversary. Your loss will cause me to be kinder and more loving. 

    Dave

  • Beachfan
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    David, I am so sorry to learn of your DW’s  passing.  There is a lot of loss on this board lately, but that doesn’t make it any easier when you are the one bearing the burden.  I pray for peace going forward; your loss seems to be doubly hard when you have been everything to one another for so long.  Blessings.
  • nancyj194
    nancyj194 Member Posts: 173
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    David, I am so sorry to hear of your beloved wife's passing. You will always miss her sweet  presence. 

  • Lynne D
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    David, my condolences. She is at peace, and I wish for you to find peace as you move forward with her spirit inside you.
  • Last Dance
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    David I am so sorry for your loss, and not having any children to share your suffering with makes it twice as hard to bear, also I feel that couples that do not have children have a much stronger bond to each other and a huge, huge, hole is left in their heart when one passes away.  I do hope you have family and friends that will help you through the days ahead. God’s Blessings to you.  Richard

     

  • Marie58
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    David, I'm so sorry for your loss. May the Lord give you strength and peace at this time.
  • Scooterr
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    I'm so sorry David, I pray you and your family find peace.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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