Strange What I Will Call A Win

Joe C.

As many of you know I placed DW 9-1/2 months ago and as I previously posted she is happy at the MC and has never asked about home. Also it has been several years since DW acknowledged that I am her husband. So yesterday when I arrived for a visit the first thing she said was, “I’m going to kill you”, I responded “what” and she repeated the same so I asked her Why and she said, “because your not here with me”. This was the first acknowledgment in a long time that we belonged together so I’m taking that as a Win. I then asked if she wanted to go outside for a walk and she smiled and said yes and all talk of homicide disappeared.

toolbeltexpert

That's a big time win for you Joe! Here's to more wins like that.

Jeff86

I think you’re right to put this one in the win column, Joe.  Sometimes I use the flickering lightbulb as an analogy—those moments of illumination are precious.

M1

Aw Joe the underlying message that she knows she belongs with you is very sweet. I'd call that a win, too.

Ed1937

I'm happy for you, Joe. Definitely a win. Wrap it up, and hang on tightly.

Quilting brings calm

I’m going to call it a win.  I’m also going to speculate that she said that first part the way many non PWD do - as a joke.  It falls flat though when  a PWD says it because they can no longer do the infections, tones and gestures that complete the teasing part of it.   At least I’d like to think that’s how she meant it

Beachfan

Definitely a win, and cherish it, Joe.  My DH, placed the same day as your DW, doesn’t acknowledge me in any way, shape, or form except to open his mouth like a baby bird if I get close, anticipating a bite to eat.  I miss the days long gone when he would jokingly tell me to “go to Hell” in the midst of a lively conversation or disagreement. I think he got his wish; I think I’ve gone to Hell.

Jo C.

What a sweet and meaninful Win; a small gift for you.   It reminds me of the old song, "Little Things Mean A Lot."  Always brings tears to my eyes with special meaning considering the circumstances. The lyrics that start at about, 1:14 on the song track is what reaches the heart.

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2C7SzKv2uLU

J.

Joydean

Joe, that is a beautiful win! She knows you belong together! Thank you for sharing!

Hoot619

Joe, I can just imagine how that SMILE made you feel. A big win for you. Sometimes it;s just the simple things that make it all worth while. Hoot

jmlarue

My focus is getting my DH placed and the dread that he won't accept a new "home" and separation. Hoping against hope I'm wrong and can experience a WIN like you've just had.

Josie in Podunk

Oh, sweet…sometimes it is the smallest of things that become rare gifts to hold on to.