My father has finally been placed in a nursing home.

Thephotogrrrl

My mother has finally found a place for my father. She has been caring for him for the last several years. Things have gotten worse with the dementia and she no longer feels she can care for him safely. Our family agrees this is the best thing. She is in her 70s and at her wits end. I know she needs a break. Unfortunately I cannot be there for her during this process as I am in another state. She is emotional about this change as she has been the sole caretaker for my father for many years. My parents are divorced but they continued to live together. My father did not have any support from his family, his mother, father and brother have all passed. I feel relieved to know that she has much support of family and friends during this time. Although we are ready to take a breath of relief, it will be difficult to process. He is known to sometimes become combative and aggressive, the place says they will most likely keep him medicated. My mother has to lie to him in order to get him to go peacefully. I have not fully processed everything. I am a recovering addict (6 years next month), however difficult and emotional this is for us all, I am not willing to lose everything over it. I am leaning on family and therapy support. I am trying to make use of every resource I have right now. That's all I have for right now. I will check back, possibly post more. I will find out tomorrow how the transition goes. Keeping my fingers crossed that it will go smoothly. She will update me tomorrow.

SusanB-dil

Of course it will be quite an adjustment for all...  yes, hoping all goes well for your family.