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toolbeltexpert

Today was one long day. I went to the nhf and got there before 630 and my dw was already dressed. I was hoping to sneak some of her stuff out so I could take it to the mcf and set it up. I did manage to get some out when she did a potty break. When I left there I drove 50 miles to get the deed put in my name only, I was missing one page of the dpoa that showed it was registered with the register of deeds, they let me email it whew.

Then I got the call that dw could move today to the mc, it was held up , waiting on a MD to sign off. So I drove 30 more miles spent an hour signing papers,then I set up part of dw room up. Then off to get an account setup with the local pharmacy so meds would be there when she was, very nice folks, they called me at 7pm tonight  to verify my costs, that was really nice because, three over the counter items were added, which I have at home.

Then it was off to go back and pickup dw at the nhf 50 more miles.i got her and all her stuff signed off for her leftover meds and back 50 miles to the mcf and got her settled in just in time for supper. A large fancy roll I can't  spell worth a plug nickel begins with a q? Tuna and egg salad, potato salad peanutbutter cookies sweet tea all nice and fresh. I lead a chorus  of the unclouded day which many residents fell in with me. 

We sat at a table for two at the window and watched a hummingbird fly up to a feeder and get a drink, big hit with the dw.

But the big hit was my dw's joy for all cat. The cna's and residents fell in love with it. The cna's said they need to buy one.

Thirty miles home and finally  got a break for a few minutes. Had to record the check I wrote. 3659 for the month she is a level one care just barely, so an increase will be on the horizon to level 2 then 3 later on.

I never had a discussion about the move with dw. I have some clothes I need to bring over tomorrow but I may not go in, they have a great activity leader and I think after a while dw will be having a good time.

I am happy but wore out. I will sleep well tonight.

Stewart

Joydean

Steward, so glad everything went so well. Seeing hummingbird’s sounds fantastic for your wife. Goodness sounds like you were running your tail off! But you got it all done. Sleep well tonight, you definitely deserve it. You have been fighting for a while, but you got it done. God was definitely with you. Take care!

Ed1937

That was a full day for sure. I'm glad you finally got it done, and things are looking up for a change. You really should sleep well tonight. Mission accomplished.

Pat6177

Stewart, congratulations! Things have been so difficult for you over the past couple of months but you persevered! And now look where you and your DW are. May this be the beginning of a much calmer period of life for the both of you.

M1

Very good news Stewart.  Hopeit continues.

Dio

TBE, that's great news! In spite of all that driving, all's well. Now give yourself a break, rest up and do something just for you.

Jo C.

Stewart, you did it!   That was certainly a day that did not seem to have enough hours, but you have managed everything so well.   Finally; peace of mind which is priceless.

I am delighted for you and for your dear wife.  May the peace of mind continue.

J.

Just Bill

You have come a long way in a short time Stewart you should sleep well. Job well done.

caberr

Glad things went well.  I'm sure you slept good last night

Jeff86

What an ordeal…but, also, what an accomplishment.   Glad for you that your DW is where she needs to be.  Time for you to exhale.  You’ve gone the extra mile, and then some.

White Crane

Stuart, I’m so happy things worked out and your dear wife is now in memory care. It sounds like it was a very long day but it also sounds like it went very well. You must be exhausted! Get some rest and know that you’re in my prayers.

Pam BH

What a battle you've fought for so long and you can now rest peacefully knowing she's being looked after. God's timing is always perfect.

Sligo177

Wow Stewart!

You have done an incredible job, congratulations.  Thank God everything fell into place!  And all of that traveling, holy cow.  You must be tired, but relieved.  Happy for you and DW.

Marie58

So glad she's in a good place now. Hope you can get some much needed rest. God's blessings on you both as you adjust to all this.

Hoot619

Dear Steward, Just how did you do all that with only 1 little mistake.  Things are changing for you and dear wife and all for the better.  You have her where you wanted her to be. I was glad to hear the good news.  Ken or Hoot

jmlarue

The dementia journey we've all been on is so hard. Over the years, I found that had acquired the habit of frequent heavy sighs. It was my way of surrendering whenever another impossible-to-manage problem came along. When the kids would ask, "How are you doing?" I'd cynically reply, "I'm walking the Bridge of Sighs" again. It is my sincere hope that time spent on your Bridge of Sighs is at an end. Your strength, resilience, and loving care for your DW is an inspiration. May God richly bless you both with peace and rest in the days ahead.

David J

Good job, Stewart!  I’m glad everything worked out with the move. 

Dave

ImMaggieMae

Wow! That’s a lot of driving. I’m glad everything worked out the way you wanted it to. That was a lot of  work!

toolbeltexpert

Thank you all for your prayers and kind words. Thought I would give an update. I got there about 1130 and snuck by her at the table, I was behind the wardrobe mover so she didn't  see me. I put the rest of her clothes away, I went back the same way but I think she saw me, so I asked how it went and got great news she did well and the staff attention shows. She had her lunch and I came back in after with a new pair of shoes, I bought a size 11 wide because her feet have swollen so much, they fit great and she was happy to see me I stayed about 3 hrs and slipped out. They are gonna try to get her to shower, so I told them to say " church is tomorrow do you want to shower tonight" but they probably have better tactics, we'll  see?

I had given them her biography of her stories, likes and favorites to let them know her better, I think that is a big help for them. A wave of sadness hit me on my way home and I have worked thru that.

Again thanks

Stewart