Doesn’t want diaper change

Arrowhead

My wife has been in diapers for four months. She still takes care of most of her own toileting, but she does still need the diapers. Most of the time she has no problem with me changing her. There are occasions when she refuses but will allow me after a short time. My concern is that someday she will absolutely refuse and not allow me to change her. What can I do if that happens?

mommyandme (m&m)

I’m curious if she is using tabbed diapers (like babies need) or pull up briefs (like potty training toddlers need)? When my mother no longer would sit/stand for toileting we switched to tabbed diapers which I would only change while she laid in bed.  

Many here have said that hiring in someone different than yourself for the changing may help.  I know someone also said they give an anti-anxiety med prior to the morning change.  I’m about to start this protocol myself.  

Not sure if either of these are a solution for you.  I’m sorry for these new struggles. 

CatsWithHandsAreTrouble

I think May Flowers goes through a similar thing with her FiL, the resisting and needing a team to help change him when he's putting up a fight. I've been gone for a month so I'm not sure what May Flowers is up to lately but I'd take input from her about their experience