DH Passed

AnnMB

I am sad to say that DH passed away on Sept 21, 2022. He declined very rapidly after his last episode and was gone a month later. I did get in to see him on the 20th and sat with him on the 21st.

I am angry at the legal system as they charged a man with assault and he didn't know what was going on. He didn't know what he'd done in the days after. What I didn't know was I should have been visiting him as they couldn't throw me out of the hospital as I wasn't the person who was charged. All they could do was report to the RCMP that he was violating the conditions stated on the paper we were given. The whole thing was a gong show and, in the end, I was victimized by the system.

The hospital staff took excellent care of DH to the end. They loved him dearly. He did resist them when he didn't understand what they wanted but once they realized that, they figured out how to work with him. They made sure he was comfortable at all times.

I am coping. I have made many lists in the last month, revised them, and made new ones. I am working through a long list right now. Family has been by my side the whole time and I'm grateful for that. I have also supported them when they needed it.

We prepared for Fiona's arrival on the day DH passed. I was into the house again on Friday to finish up as I had a lot of items that I wanted off the floor in case of flooding. Fiona hit at 11 pm Friday night and it was quite the show. My house and yard had no damage (the garden even survived) and family lost a wooden screen door and 3 panels of fence. I was home on Saturday afternoon as I stayed with family.

I am hoping everyone is doing as well as possible. I keep thinking of all of you as you take your journey with a LO who has Alzheimer's.

toolbeltexpert

Ann I am so sorry to hear about you dh passing and all the events that caused more stress for you. I am glad you didn't suffer any damage from Fiona. Your always in my prayers.

Joydean

Ann please except my condolences to you and your family. He is so longer in the grip of horrible Alzheimer’s, he is free. Prayers for you and your family.

Jeff86

Deepest condolences, Ann, on your DH’s passing.  May you find peace in the coming weeks and months.

M1

Fiona sounds like the wrath of God that was icing on the cake.  Glad you are okay and so, so sorry--about all of it.  Glad he is at peace--hope it will come to you, too.

Ed1937

I am so sorry for your loss, and everything leading up to it.

Last Dance

Dealing with and being the caregiver of a person with Alzheimer's or dementia of any type is horrible enough, but to be violated by the legal system is a horror to end all horrors. I am sorry for the loss of your dear husband, but I hope that you can take some comfort knowing that he is no longer suffering and this mental anguish and pain are gone. I pray that you can move on with your life and put the past behind you,  even though that's easier said than done.                                      God's blessings to you and your family in the days to come. Richard

Hoot619

I know you are going to miss him.

Twin Mom

Wishing you peace.

ImMaggieMae

Ann, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband and all the events leading up to it. Thank goodness you were spared most of Fiona’s wrath. Too many things to have to deal with. Please take care of yourself.

Marie58

Ann, I'm so sorry for your loss of you DH and all the other events that happened during this time. May God bless you and your family. I'm glad you have their support.

60 falcon

I'm sorry Ann.

Joe C.

Ann, My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

saltom

Ann, I am so sorry for your  husband's death and all you have been through.  May you find some relief in the support of your family and fond memories of earlier times.

storycrafter

Ann, wishing you courage and peace through this sad, sad time.

Cherjer

Ann, may your dh rest in peace, and you and  your family know that he is released from this awful disease.

Lynne D

I am sorry for your loss. I wish you both peace.

Jo C.

Dear Ann, I am so very sorry for all that happened and for the loss of your dear husband.   You have had such significant challenges, and then to have Fiona on top of it, that is just astounding.

I so hope for the best for you and that you will find peace of mind and heart very soon.

J.

White Crane

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ann. Praying for your peace and comfort.