My turn to announce…

French

I read lot of bad news, that were for some a relief, for others a huge emptiness, a terrible tear…

He left us yesterday evening, just after I left his room ant launched Clapton CD. Perhaps, even sedated, he felt I was now ready.

Strangely, I seem to be the less devastated. I think I cried so much for 4 1/2 years that I was at the end of the tank. I just feel empty. I know that I'm going to break down during the ceremony, next Monday when I will see everybody crying there.

Hoot619

French,       I'm so sorry for you but his suffering is over. You wouldn't want him back the way he was.  I look at my wife's chair and she isn't in it any more.  My love for her is coming back to me now that this dreadful disease is gone.

Lynne D

French, I am so sorry for your loss.  How you feel is understandable; there is no “right” way to feel.

I meditate on these words and it helps me:

I acknowledge my grief 

As a witness of my love

As a testament of my strength

And as a guide, leading me towards my highest being

Joydean

French my sincere condolences on the passing of your partner. Glad for him because his suffering is over. Prayers for you and your family, for peace and strength for the coming days.

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harshedbuzz

French-

I am so sorry. Please be gentle with yourself as you move forward.

HB

ImMaggieMae

French I am so sorry. I know that he had been suffering for a long time, but this latest setback was just so sudden that it probably makes it harder for you. May he rest in peace and may you feel some peace as well.

Iris L.

French, please accept my condolences in your loss.

Iris

Joe C.

French, My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. You were a great caregiver & advocate during his journey. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

Marie58

French, I'm so sorry for your loss. You both had a tough journey through all of this and you were an amazing caregiver. May the Lord bless you.

loveskitties

French, I am so sorry about the passing of your LO.

You and he endured much on this journey.

He is now at peace...may you find yours in the good memories of your time together.

Hugs.

Ed1937

French, I'm so sorry for your loss. You did an outstanding job caregiving, and that's something you can take with you. I wish you peace in the coming times.

Dio

My condolences, French! Let the tears flow if you need to and be comforted in knowing that the suffering is over.

A. Marie

French, I am so sorry--both for your partner's passing and for the terrible experiences you have had in the past few years. But his suffering is over, and I send best wishes that your suffering will also now decrease.

M1

French I too am sorry--for you and your sons and all you have been through.  I am glad his suffering is at an end.  You did a phenomenal job negotiating the healthcare and justice systems for him.  May you find solace and peace in the days ahead.

Jo C.

Though expected, it is with sadness to hear such news; I extend condolences to you and your Partner's sons.  You did all that could be done under the circumstances with the challenges that came to be.  You rose to each occasion and have gone the distance.  May solace and peace be with you.

When you have time, let us know how you are doing; we will be thinking of you.

J.

60 falcon

I'm sorry French.

Beachfan

May the angels lead him into Paradise; may the martyrs come to welcome him and take him to the holy city, the new and eternal Jerusalem.

French, I am so sorry.  Both of you deserve now to rest.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  

Quilting brings calm

I’m so sorry for your family’s loss.  I’m sorry that he had to endure what he endured for so long.   You’ve been grieving for quite some time, while also trying to advocate for him and  your sons. You must feel exhausted.   It’s okay  to feel numb.  It will be okay if you grieve later or if you move forward with peace.  Whatever your feeling are is right for you.

mrl

Oh French, 

I am so sorry. You are a wonderful caregiver. I pray for you both

Michele

Crushed

I wish I had something elegant and helpful to say but I am at a loss

we share your pain  

MaryG123

I’m so sorry French.  I know you miss him.

Twin Mom

I am sorry for your loss.  I hope you will be comforted knowing he is no longer in torment.

Jeff86

Deepest condolences to you, French, on the loss of your partner.   It’s been an extraordinarily challenging journey for you and your partner, and you have been a heroic caregiver and advocate.

Wishing you peace in the weeks and months ahead.  His suffering has ended.  I hope yours eases, in time.

JoseyWales

(((French)))  My heart breaks for you. I am at a loss for exactly what to say, but know I'm thinking of you.  

I'm sure Monday will be hard, but I also hope that those around you share all their fond memories and that it brings you peace.

toolbeltexpert

French I am so sorry for you loss. You have managed so well over so many obstacles of what seemed insurmountable conditions and did a fine job for your partner. Praying for you comfort and peace now, 

Stewart

Buggsroo

French,

I am so sorry, you helped him so much with so much love and now he is free from pain and this awful disease. Please take care of you and your sons. I wish you peace.

Cherjer

Dear French, 

As all have said you have been such a fighter for your dear partner...you never gave up. I know you have had all the support on this site...across the ocean. We all care for you and you have fought the good fight. As much as we all think we can fight this terrible disease, in the end there is defeat. However, all the love that comes through with the wonderful responses and help on this site makes this disease a little easier to tolerate. You are a wonderful person who advocated for your partner...may he rest in  peace.

CD5

I am deeply sorry for your loss and all that you have been through. Sending hugs and prayers.

jmlarue

So very sorry, French. Words always fail me in the face of such sad news. Just know that I will hold you and your dear departed in my thoughts and prayers. You are a model of strength and enduring love for all of us.

White Crane

French, I am so sorry.  His suffering is over.  You have been an amazing caregiver.  Now may you find peace and rest in the coming days.  Sending hugs and prayers.