Close to moving

Spanky77

Hi, well, DH is extremely fearful of reflections. I have pictures, mirrors, and some windows covered. He’s on two different meds. He broke our toilet tank in fear (reflection of water?)  our front door window, and visor in car with mirror . He hit the shutter and cut his hand not to mention his thin skin bruises on arms easily and the skin breaks. Forgive me for sharing all of this, but basically, about a dozen friends have told me it’s overdue for him to get help I can’t give now. So I’m very close to putting him in a place I’ve located by end of year (?). Questions: I know this is probably obvious, but do you all feel it’s time from what I shared?  How did you tell your significant others they were moving? Has anyone gone thru this reflection type fear? How do you get it resolved? And the screams and sundowning added to it. Wow. 

It’s gut wrenching. I just hope he doesn’t get fearful at the window reflections at any facility. Thanks for any thoughts…I’m 59 and DH 71– I know age doesn’t matter, but man, what a hard year. I feel a bit scared. 

SusanB-dil

Maybe a tweak in meds is in order for the agitation?

Don't worry about what you have shared.  You are in the right place for it. 

If you feel like you are beginning to be 'in over your head', then yes, it might be time.  If friends are telling you, and you are questioning if it is time to place, then it sounds like the time is right. It won't be easy. It will be quite an adjustment for you. 

It is gut-wrenching.  It is hard. I think all of us HATE 'this'!