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IDrive3

Yesterday was Margie's funeral.  She died a week before.  

Last time, I told you how I had to cancel the doctor appointments because I didn't figure out that I couldn't get her in my car if she couldn't stand.  I blame it on sleep deprivation.  Just before the cancelled appointment, 2 of the directors at Margie's facility recommended that I consider hospice.  It took a couple days to get to the decision (I guess I was hoping for something positive from the appointment that never happened.).  She got hospice care for less than 2 weeks.  She died just over 5 weeks after she walked back into the facility upon returning from the hospital.  It happened so fast.

I was able to get Mom over to see Margie a couple times in her last days that we didn't realize were her very last days.  I'm glad I was able to do that.  Mom is still having some health issues.  This past week was so busy with phone calls and funeral planning and helping Mom.  I don't know if I'm still in shock, or in acceptance.  Mom and I agree that we didn't want her to go, but we didn't want her to stay the way she was.  Not only is the pain gone, but she is no longer confused and afraid.  I think letting go was easier than watching her suffer.

I've been wearing a necklace she bought me on one of our vacations.  One side has a picture of 2 little girls.  It says "Sisters".  The back says "Through thick and thin.  Your Sister.  Your friend. Always."  Exactly 2 weeks after Margie got her diagnosis, someone kicked in the back door of our house and stole my jewelry box.  Before we saw the busted door, Margie found this necklace in the alley.  I think my Grandma reached down and grabbed it for me.

Thank you all for your companionship on this journey no one wants to take.

harshedbuzz

IDrive3-

Please accept my sincere sympathy. The loss of a sibling is unlike other losses IME.

You have gone above and beyond as a sister and daughter. I hope in time your memories of growing up bring a smile. 

HB

Mint

IDrive3

I am so very for your loss.

mommyandme (m&m)

So fast and difficult…I’m so very sorry. Thank you for sharing. My thoughts are with you and yours.

eaglemom

I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself and remember you can always come back here for support.

eagle

GothicGremlin

Oh my gosh, IDrive3, I'm so sorry to hear this.  This all seems so incredibly fast.

I hope you can take comfort in knowing that you did everything that was humanly possible for Margie.  She was lucky to have you looking out for her.

Please take care of yourself.

Thinking of you.

LicketyGlitz

Peace and good memories to make you smile as you move through your grief. So very sorry.

SusanB-dil

Hi IDrive3 - So sorry for your loss.  I agree that someone (yes, probably grandma! - just knocked it right out of their low-life hands!) was watching out for your very special necklace, and I am thankful for that for you.  

Take care of mom, but do take time for yourself.

Hoot619

I guess the only way to say it is her suffering is over, I know it is going to be hard on you for a while. I'm going thru the same, I've been writing a letter to my wife at camp letting her know how much I miss her.  It helps

IDrive3

It has been a little over a month since Margie died.  It seems like more time has passed.  I still don't know what I feel.  Since Margie's funeral, we found out that Mom has cancer - a type at high risk of spreading.  She needs to have major surgery.  But that needs to be delayed now, because last week we both tested positive for covid!  Luckily, our symptoms are not severe.  2 years ago, Margie and I had it right after our dad died, so I'm having a little deja vu on top of everything else.  What a mess.

mommyandme (m&m)

Thanks for the update on you and yours…I’m so sorry for your moms diagnosis! It just never ends…the heartache and worries.  Scary stuff!

SusanB-dil

iDrive - sometimes it just feels like if it isn't one thing, it's another!!

Sorry you are dealing with that, now, on top of the covidcoronacrap. Glad the symptoms aren't too bad for that, but just ugghh!  You've really not had time for a break and to process everything before dealing with something else, now.  ((hugs))

GothicGremlin

I am so sorry, iDrive3.  You haven't had time to catch your breath.  I hope you and your mom test negative soon so that your mom can have her surgery.

Sending all positive thoughts your way.

IDrive3

Thank you all for your support.  We're both feeling better.  I have to retest Mom tomorrow to see if she'll be allowed out of her apartment.  The surgery has to be delayed about 5 weeks to make sure she has totally recovered from covid before getting anesthesia. That delay worries both of us.